A hack to make doing dishes (especially without a dishwasher) a little easier for all you fellow neurodivergents: (Not saying this will work for everyone, but it has really helped me so just in case, here you go!)
Get rubber gloves. These really helped me with sensory problems- less "ick gross food on my hands and under my nails" or obsessively washing my hands with a temperature that is way too hot. Plus, the gloves provide a little more heat tolerance, so if you're like me and like the water to be as hot as possible for dishes... well these have prevented multiple burns. ALSO!! Your hands don't get wet... which if you have chronically dry skin this is a hand saver!!
A scrub brush soap dispenser, like this!!
It's incredibly useful- I fill it with soap and dilute it with water before doing dishes and then it's good to go! I found that it really helped me use less soap since I wasn't obsessively adding more every couple minutes. It's also nice as a 2in1 soap and scrubby, which reduces the amount of times you have to switch your focus.
And my favorite tip: Pick a show to watch along with it, and- if this is appealing to you- make it a game; try to race and finish the dishes before the episode ends!! Or just enjoy a nice show!!
Alright, hope these helped someone as much as they have helped me!!