Following my post from last week, I think it’s safe to say that I have trouble with confidence levels.
But that’s okay, because I’m working on it ;)
But I was also thinking about how many people want a significant other, a SO. And I thought of this because my twelve year old sister told me she wanted a boyfriend.
The thing is, I don’t think she wants a boyfriend for herself. I don’t think she understands the real concept of a boyfriend. And I’m not saying I do. I’m just saying she doesn’t. I think she wants a boyfriend for other people.
To show other people that she’s good enough (?) to have a boyfriend. Like how some girls like to show off the fact that they have guys that they can flirt with. And will flirt back with them.
And there’s something about a SO that’s different from a friend. People don’t show off other people unless that other person has something they can show off. Let’s use fame for an example.
Mary and her little lamb suddenly befriended celebrities Jack and Jill, where they met randomly at the supermarket. Now Mary was super excited. So she posts pictures of them everywhere and anywhere. Why?
Because Jack and Jill are very busy people. And they’re famous. They don’t usually befriend people who are not famous (not saying all celebrities don’t, just Jack and Jill). So when they befriend Mary, she feels special. She feels different. She feels as if she is good enough for such people like Jack and Jill.
The same thing sort of applies to a SO. Let’s be under the assumption that Lucy wants a boyfriend because either she hasn’t had any, or she didn’t have many. So Lucy doesn’t normally get asked out on a date. So when Peter wants to be her boyfriend, she feels special. She feels different. Peter doesn’t have to be her boyfriend. He wants to. She feels as if she is good enough to be wanted by a guy.
And yes, I understand, this can be read as a very sexist thought. But the reason I tried to start with a SO instead of boyfriend was because this kind of thinking applies to a lot of people, not just a typical girlfriend-boyfriend relationship. Everybody wants to feel wanted (of course, there are always exceptions). I was just using a girl and a boyfriend as an example, because that was how I was thinking when my poor, young, innocent sister asked me that question.
