#ooc dyn

[ujima]

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unpopular hot take.

own your shit.

the rpc coddle their friends too much for doing fuckery. ya'll parents?

when you get called out for a mistake—whether it actually was one or not—own it. don’t deflect. don’t lie. don’t overexplain. just take the feedback, sit with it, and decide what kind of presence you want to have in this space. because dragging the situation out with excuses and dishonesty doesn’t make you look innocent—it makes you look fragile. and it’s counterproductive as hell. [and honestly, that shit don't work on me.]

you don’t gain anything by spiraling over a virtual finger being wagged in your face. but you can lose a lot: trust, access, community. people may not make a show out of it, but they’ll remember. and you’ll start noticing fewer threads, fewer replies, fewer folks who want to build anything with you.

you don’t have to be perfect—but be accountable. be grown. drama doesn’t always start with intention. sometimes it starts with someone trying too hard not to look wrong. don’t twist your way into being the victim. just be honest about what happened and move forward. we are adults. we are writers. you don’t need a PR campaign for a misstep. you need self-awareness.

and let’s be clear—mental illness is real. trauma is real. this is not a lecture. i say that to say... using it as a shield when someone confronts you about harm you've caused? that’s manipulative. that’s not being neurodivergent, that’s being avoidant. and it’s a tactic that disproportionately punishes the people you’ve hurt—especially those who are marginalized themselves and now have to tiptoe around your “spiral” and police their own emotions because you fucked up.

you don’t get to cry “i’m mentally ill” as a get-out-of-jail free card when you disrespect someone, lie, or instigate a mess and get caught. you want community? kindness from folks? be accountable. don’t demand softness from people you’ve mishandled. and don’t expect the same community you just disrupted to drop everything and patch your ego back together. some of us have our ownselves and our people to look out for in real life. we can't be held accountable for every single life behind these virtual barbie dolls.

it’s ain't cruel to hold someone accountable. what’s cruel is trying to make your diagnosis someone else's burden.

[ujima]

what’s a piece of media that permanently changed how you write?

what’s your biggest muse-killer?

what’s a small writing quirk you have that no one would notice unless you told them?

what’s a piece of media that permanently changed how you write?

i’d say sinners, lovecraft country, watchmen, the changeling, south of midnight, bitter root, etc. they all tap into things i’ve been interested in writing about since i was a teenager—racecraft, black love, the supernatural, thriller, horror, and cultural elements tied to my own background.

seeing those ideas actually executed in different forms of media helped me understand how i want to approach them in my own writing. it gave shape to things i already had in mind and showed me how far i could push them.

what’s your biggest muse-killer?

rpc adopts very police-like behavior when it comes to certain muses, and fandoms, but that being said... i don't like woobified portrayals of villains or muses that committed atrocities, held problematic beliefs, or had controversial dialogue within the canon. i think people should get comfortable writing RP fights again, because there are muses where it'll be on-sight, no matter what you do. (e.g., if i'm writing mother's milk from the boys and interacting with a soldier boy/homelander and they're AU... considering how impacted mother's milk story was by them.. i shouldn't have to skirt around real issues because the mun wants to downplay the racism because it's an 'uncomfortable' facet of their muse). overall, i hate niceness.

racially passive-aggressive behavior, especially when it shows up ic but clearly comes from ooc bias. i can tell when a character is being written with underlying discomfort or resentment toward intelligent black muses, and it pulls me out immediately. i’m not interested in writing through microaggressions, coded language, or dynamics where my muse is being subtly undermined or reduced. it stops being collaborative and starts feeling like i’m managing someone else’s bias.

when it stops feeling like i’m writing with the muse and starts feeling like i’m writing with the mun. if replies start reflecting personal takes, control issues, or out-of-character interference instead of the character’s actual voice and logic, it breaks the immersion. i lose interest when the interaction feels like negotiation or projection instead of two characters moving naturally within the scene. with oc's, this becomes more egregious because if the muses are shipped and grievances are expressed through the character voice, i want to back away from the mun. after all, there's ooc emotion in the mix, and when I write i only care about what the characters are feeling, not talking to the mun through the character.

and writing while intoxicated. i don't romanticize drugs and alcohol use and sometimes when i talk to people while under the influence, it's kinda... annoying. not to mention, i had an experience when i was role-playing with somebody in the past, and their muse became uncharacteristically racist. that night, they kept telling the dash they were drunk lmao.

what’s a small writing quirk you have that no one would notice unless you told them?

honestly, i wouldn’t know unless someone pointed it out to me. people pick up on different things, so i can’t really say what stands out to them.

what i do know is what i aim for. i lean into metaphors and similes, and i like slipping in small pieces of real-world history when it fits. i pay a lot of attention to atmosphere. i try to make the setting feel lived-in, like it exists beyond the characters, without turning it into unnecessary exposition.

everything i write is really about what feels right for me and whoever i’m writing with in that moment.