I think a skill that we as a society really need to relearn is how to dislike people. Like you are not a bad person for having preferences, it is perfectly acceptable to dislike someone with or without reason.
And the fact is we’ve made “not wanting to associate with someone” this big bad thing. So the only solution for most people is to wildly overstate or UNDERstate harm because they’re convinced they need a justification for their feelings. I’ve seen people in my life accused of being abusive when their only crime was being rude a few times and having an off putting personality. Meanwhile I’ve also had (ex) friends who continued to make excuses for a seriel sexual assaulter (who we knew personally, not a detached celebrity figure mind you) because gee golly he’s just so gosh darn likable, and he said he was vewy sowy 🥺
This whole stupid mindset of “I’m not allowed to exclude ANYONE EVER from my personal bubble without reason” is making it so we’ve jumped from bullying people for being “cringe” to accusing them of all kinds of unhinged shit to make liking them morally wrong. That way you don’t have to put in the work of treating people you find irritating as equals.