#papersunshine

[themonkeycabal]

I can’t even tell you how many times I’ve re read your run verse. Of course I can donate for your mom. Thank you for providing us with such great fanfiction over these years.

Thank you, friend. I am so grateful to you. Really, I can’t even tell you. Thank you so much. 

[thebloggerbloggerfun]

So I hope I'm not intruding but how did your parents respond to you leaving the church?

I don’t mind at all!

I mean obviously they weren’t too happy about it because of how much they believe that this church is true, and that you can’t make it into heaven if you leave it after joining, but two things happened before they found out about my leaving:

1. My brother also left the church very vocally

2. My sister got a girlfriend

So, I think they were grateful that I didn’t leave as badly as my brother did (not that I blame him, of course) and they’d already had to re-examine a few things when it came to my sister. 

I never actually told them I had left, but I stopped talking about my ward and about church, and they eventually stopped asking. I received a very long email from my mom that was actually super nice and understanding. She said that she knew I wasn’t going to church and that she knew I had a lot of issues with the doctrine and the culture and that she would always love me no matter what, but she wanted to know if I’d like to take a specific institute class before I finally decided to leave the church for good. 

So, because I love my mom, I agreed and signed up for it. 

The class was all about getting into the nitty gritty of the tricky mormon doctrine and discussing the murky past, and I’m sure it would have been an okay (as okay as that can be) class, but I hated the teacher. He said offensive things that I did not like, and ended up telling my parents when I skipped a class, which I was super not okay with and ended up chewing him out over it before never showing up again. 

Anyway, they haven’t treated the 4/5 kids of theirs who have left the church any differently, and have given us unconditional love - which is more than a lot of other ex-mormons can say. 

[thebloggerbloggerfun]

Did you ever tell them/explain you're ace? I hope I'm not misunderstanding or anything but I believe I've read on previous posts of yours you are ace???

Yeah, I’m ace!

It’s not something we’ve ever talked about, but when my sister came out to them, they also asked about me (because if you don’t show interest in dating you must be a lesbian) and she told them I was ace? 

Soooooo they hypothetically know but it’s never been something I’ve discussed with them. The closest thing was was: 

My dad: So when do you think you’re gonna get a ring on that finger?

Me: Eh, probably never

My dad: Well, alright

[thebloggerbloggerfun]

Thank you for taking the time to answer questions and instigate the impromptu utah party.

Haha no worries! I don’t mind at all :) 

I hope I can meetup with you all one day!