Punishments for DOERS, Parenting Contracts for DEEDS, what will you choose for your child?
A lot of parents go unnerved with the inappropriate behavior of their children. And children in consequence of improper conduct, face the fury of parents that falls over them in the form of punishments quite often. Believe it or not, but such measures are not just unfair but they are unfavorable too, for parents as well as children.
Corporal Punishments serve no purpose of parenting and instead dig a deep valley of irreconcilable hatred in children's chest. It ruins parent child relationship instead of working either way. Parents hereafter turn villains and so do their children into rebels sooner or later. While in few cases kids turn fearful too which is not good as that will hinder and hold back their personal growth by harming and hurting their self esteem. The ill effects do not stop here, children may also lose their trust in relationships due to the harsh enforcement.
It is not that parents are totally at fault or should be blamed alone for applying such measures. It is just that they work on DOER instead of DEED. And therefore they need “Parenting Contract”.
Parenting Contract is an arrangement between a parent and a child wherein conditions for an acceptable conduct along with the consequences for violation or noncompliance are pre determined. Further to make the deal fair and motivating for children, rewards are included in the contract.
What's best about Parenting Contract is that its effective yet does not involve any punitive measures to be applied on children. This makes such a contract a suitable tool for behavior modification of children.
Parenting Contract are also:
Simple to create (for parents) with a little to no cost, as well as easy to follow by children;
Mutual arrangments, limiting need to enforce anything on children;
Clear with conditions of contract in writing leaving no room for confusion or chaos between parents;
Reliable as they work on proven and popular idea of psychology called Premack's Principle.
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