#parenting tw

[sneindeer]

is it like. normal (in the sense of average, NOT in the sense of good) for parents to hit their children sometimes

[hashtag-xolo]

Taking a moment away from talking about doggos to talk about parenting

I'm in a slightly odd situation insofar as my fiance is ten years older than I am so her bio children are 14 and 16 respectively. I'm only eleven years older than the older kiddo. Which none of this is a problem or a negative.

It *is* odd though because I am relatively in-tune and aware with the things that my step kids enjoy and are consuming media-wise. They read and write fanfiction and use lots of internet terms their mother doesn't have a personal background knowledge of. She learns these words from us. Meanwhile I speak their internet language with ease and can easily make references they understand and enjoy.

Which led to today when I was driving the younger kid to school and as soon as we are beginning to drive away, she asks me if I'm aware of a particular character and begins to explain how he's her comfort character. Said character is from the Creepypasta body of works a la Slenderman n company. So today I'm having the (very good) emotional gut punch of her being able to safely talk about having such a character for her comfort character. It's not easy coming from the burden of traumas and experiences with mental illness this kid has had. So it makes sense she'd find a character with them comforting to her. But still, it's not a character most would proudly call comforting. So I'm glad she's able to say that to me and not worry about blowback from it. 🥺

[just-a-whumping-racoon-with-wifi]

So glad my parents were so much more understanding when it came to liking sad and painful scenes as a child. The teachers always asked the kids what there favorite parts were, and the kids would always put the cute scenes, but I didn't want to lie because the sad and mean parts were always my favorites. They told me it was normal to like the exciting parts and there was nothing wrong with me.

I'm glad to hear that anon!

I think for the most part, many parents want to protect children from hard things. Hard tasks, hard emotions, hard situations. Totally understandable, but sometimes it doesn't work out.

[sayitback]

hey everyone, with mothers day coming up, I just wanted to say to everyone here that it’s okay to not want to celebrate the occasion because you don’t have a good relationship with your mom. you’re completely valid in your feelings.

[banisheddie-moved]

eddie’s relationship with their father, judd, is incredibly strained and complicated. judd loved his kid and felt that “tough love” was the way to go. he didn’t want eddie being bullied or ridiculed any more than they already were so they had many spats about eddie’s behavior. he called eddie homophobic slurs for their interest in fantasy. yelled at him for drawing on the walls while margot, eddie’s mom, encouraged it. he struck eddie across the face when they used kool aid to dye their hair. frequently told them to “man up.” he was, however, proud when eddie defended themselves from bullies in fights and engaged in “bonding” by teaching him to hotwire cars. as eddie grew, so did their resentment for judd & the desire to include him in their life shrunk.

[killerkeys]

do they enjoy silence or find it too loud?

THE  REAL  IMPORTANT  CHARACTER  DEVELOPMENT  QUESTIONS  PART  2

Besides having her whole "thing" center around sound, being a musician, Vivienne hates silence. She talks to fill it up, plays some tunes or drums her fingers against anything to avoid the sound dying. It's painfully awkward to just..be, you know? There was lots of times when she and her mother would sit in silence since she'd usually get hushed because she had no indoor voice as a kid or told off for talking back when she wasn't. So that might have had that manifest with her discomfort with silence. There's also the fact that getting chased down by someone you can't hear puts you on edge now.

[sugvrpink]

[untothisstorm]

// It’s interesting how two out of the three mother figure muses that I play (Marion, Susan, and Peggy- Peggy being the odd one out here), their children are adopted and have such precarious relationships with the mother figure. For Charlotte, Ira, and Rachel, it’s almost like they’re in a reverse role as a “child-figure”. They’re not really meant to be viewed as children, they’re test subjects. Test subjects that live in a home with a parental figure- a parental figure who is not meant to become attached to the child. They’re only meant to care for the child and nurture them.