#pastversuspresent

[edwardmerasmus]

2013 vs 2019 @ the same spot. #mandmworld #orlando #orlandoflorida #orlandovacation #pastversuspresent (at M&M'S World) https://www.instagram.com/p/B64KkHAhwZG/?igshid=txe5fri0r1he

[littlelovelywriter-blog]

Letter to That Small Child

Dear Little One, 

 I have migrated to a time far past your own and somehow managed to survive everything the world has thrown you. Don’t take the people around you for granted. Every time I’ve lost someone that you’ve held to such a high standard another person has arrived. Do no fear the emptiness that always follows the end of a friendship. Instead embrace the fact that they had such a huge impact on the life that we share. There is so much I wish to say but I simply cannot bring myself to spoil the future that is presented before you. I wish I could say that it gets better however that is not the case. In order to grow one must learn to accept that there will always be pain, there will always be a dark future past a bright present, and there will always be the past that lingers in the present. One can only learn to face what is given to them, be it with a smile or with tears streaming down the face. You may be the me of the past but take it from the you of the future your doing the best you possibly can and I’m proud. There is so much that I can no longer relate with but there is no way for me to turn my back on you, the past that many no longer chose to acknowledge. Contrary to popular belief you made me the way I am, you fought the best that you could, and most important... you survived. You survived the dark days, you survived the nights spent on the bathroom floor, you survived the names, you survived everything that was thrown at you. It may have seemed hard then but now it’s just a portion of the past that I’ve accepted and learned from. Nobody on this planet will even be a better teacher than you. 

[kennyrich]

How does your past measure up to your present? #musings #apoetsmind #pastversuspresent #instaquote #infotainment #enrichbykennyrich #theoneeyedking

[arlenevillaflor-blog]

Haven't you noticed, too, on the part of nearly everyone you know, a growing rebellion against the present? And an increasing longing for the past? I have. Never before in all my long life have I heard so many people wish that they lived 'at the turn of the century,' or 'when life was simpler,' or 'worth living,' or 'when you could bring children into the world and count on the future,' or simply 'in the good old days.' People didn't talk that way when I was young! The present was a glorious time! But they talk that way now. For the first time in man's history, man is desperate to escape the present. Our newsstands are jammed with escape literature, the very name of which is significant. Entire magazines are devoted to fantastic stories of escape - to other times, past and future, to other worlds and planets - escape to anywhere but here and now. Even our larger magazines, book publishers and Hollywood are beginning to meet the rising demand for this kind of escape. Yes, there is a craving in the world like a thirst, a terrible mass pressure that you can almost feel, of millions of minds struggling against the barriers of time. I am utterly convinced that this terrible mass pressure of millions of minds is already, slightly but definitely, affecting time itself. In the moments when this happens - when the almost universal longing to escape is greatest - my incidents occur. Man is disturbing the clock of time, and I am afraid it will break. When it does, I leave to your imagination the last few hours of madness that will be left to us; all the countless moments that now make up our lives suddenly ripped apart and chaotically tangled in time. Well, I have lived most of my life; I can be robbed of only a few more years. But it seems too bad - this universal craving to escape what could be a rich, productive, happy world. We live on a planet well able to provide a decent life for every soul on it, which is all ninety-nine of a hundred human beings ask. Why in the world can't we have it? ("I'm Scared")

Jack Finney, American Fantastic Tales: Terror and the Uncanny from the 1940's Until Now

[jazmineclaire]

10 Signs You're in a Rebound Relationship

1. You try to bump into your ex

Have you ever ‘innocently’ planned a date at a restaurant you used to frequent with your ex or took a romantic stroll past your ex’s workplace with your new partner? No matter how much you try to tell yourself it’s just a coincidence, could it be that you are secretly planning to bump into your ex with your new partner in the hope of making them a teeny bit jealous? While most of us have felt the urge to show our ex what they’re missing, if making your ex jealous is a main motivating factor for your relationship, you are almost definitely on the rebound.

2. It’s all about the competition

If you view moving on as a competition and are preoccupied with the idea of finding someone new, falling in love and moving on to the next relationship milestone before your ex, then you are most likely on the rebound. While it can be hard to deal with your ex finding someone new while you’re still hurting and single, try to remember that moving on is not a competition you need to “win”. Stop focusing on what your ex is up to and concentrate on your own life, taking things at your own pace.

3. You need an ego boost

Breakups can be pretty devastating for your self-esteem, particularly if your relationship ended on a bad note, and this is one reason many people try to move on to somebody new quickly. However, it’s important to remember that your new dating partner is not just there to boost your ego. If you have an inkling you are rushing into a new relationship to boost your low self-esteem, it may be time to take some time out from dating to work on your confidence alone.

4. They don’t match up to your checklist

While it’s perfectly fine (and can even be beneficial) to date against your ‘type’, if you find that you are dating somebody who doesn't have any of the important character traits you’d like your other half to have, it may be that you have fallen into the “anyone is better than no one” mindset in your desperation to get back on the dating scene. If you are of the opinion that anyone will do, it’s safe to say you are in a rebound relationship.

5. They’re just like your ex

On the other hand, maybe you are dating exactly according to your type, with that type being your ex. If you find others have been commenting on the similarity of your new partner to your ex or you find yourself falling into the exact same relationship pattern you had with your previous partner, this may be a sign you are trying to replace your ex. Rather than rushing into an identical relationship (which clearly didn’t work out the first time) take some time to think about what you really want and to properly get over your ex.

6. You’re moving too fast or too slow

While there are no hard and fast rules about how quickly a relationship should move along, if you find yourself talking about moving in together or thinking of baby names after a couple of weeks, or if you still know next to nothing about your partner months down the line, you could be in a rebound relationship. Trying to fast forward your relationship to the same stage as your last one is a classic sign of a rebound relationship. Alternatively, retaining emotional distance after some time together could be a sign that you view your relationship as something temporary.

7. You over-share

When you’re getting to know someone new, it is natural to share stories about your past. However, if you find yourself over-sharing details about your ex, it could be a sign that you are not yet over them. While you may feel that you are just being honest and open with your new partner, it should raise a red flag that your former partner is on your mind so much while you are spending time with your new one.

8. You’re constantly comparing

While you may have refrained from actually talking about your ex, if you find yourself mentally comparing your new partner with your ex all the time, this is another sign you are not over them. While it is good to acknowledge the ways this relationship is better for you than your past one, it is important to appreciate each relationship and person in their own right, rather than constantly holding them up for comparison.

9. You never really healed

How did you feel before you entered into this new relationship? If you can honestly answer that you were in a happy and emotionally stable place prior to meeting your new partner then this is great news. However, if you feel that you still had some unresolved emotions and hurt from your last relationship, it may be that you are using this relationship to distract yourself so that you don’t have to deal with these negative emotions.

10. You feel unhappy when you’re alone

If find yourself feeling down, lonely and confused when you are away from your partner, it may be a sign that you have not yet dealt with emotions from your last relationship. Many people rush into new relationships to distract themselves from negative feelings arising from a recent breakup; however spending time with someone new is only a temporary distraction and the feelings are likely to still be there waiting for you to deal with them.