OK so I don't know if this is going to turn up anything but
I was a gifted and talented (GT) and Advanced Placement kid growing up, and I've seen a lot of posts about how things can turn out for us when we get older.
I'm wondering if there's any resources for those of us who had parents also pushing us to excel with no reasonable leeway? Like I was not allowed to get a B "without a good reason" - on larger assignment or heaven forbid a six-weeks average and I better pray not a semester average - and that turned out to mean an outside, act of god intervention (anything like neurodivergent issues, human forgetfulness, dumb luck or misunderstandings, too many classes with too many assignments, none of these would pass).
This has been baked into my psyche so deep that I'm discovering that it's affecting things like work. I have no problems talking myself around about making allowances for other people being humans, but I have extreme difficulty allowing that I do not have to achieve perfection at all times and that I cannot achieve perfection at all times. And I can confirm this is not a belief I started with on my own - there's a difference between feeling good about turning out good quality and being told that less than perfection is punishable.
