#personal developmet

[theprincientist]

There's nothing to prove

[theprincientist]

The things that propel you for growth will not always be new and exciting.

Sometimes it's doing the same boring thing 1000x. In the beginning and when you're setting goals and creating new habits, you can feel the growth in real time. New ways of thinking and feeling unlock easily.

After a while it almost feels stagnant, but that's growth too. At that moment it's about maintenance.

It becomes about not falling into old patterns and responding differently to triggers. No new and exciting realizations.

Just the daily work of making sure you don't go back to the version of yourself that dreamed to be where you are now.

[theprincientist]

Don't self-reject!

[theprincientist]

Use pattern recognition to find long term solutions

Once you have a big problem, assume it will happen again in your lifetime.

Debt, miscommunication, grief, depression, anxiety, unemployment, illness, breakup ....

Life is unpredictable and for a myriad of reasons you will face the same issues over and over again.

Be it financial, relationship or work related you should consider a solution that will work for a lifetime and not only for now.

Think of life in the long term by recognizing your own patterns.

If you keep over explaining it's a communication issue with you. If you don't have time, it's a prioritisation issue and management issue with you. If you are underpaid it's your skill issue. If you keep having the same fight with multiple partners it's an behavioral issue with you. If you never have money it's a money management issue with you.

Taking accountability for an issue, even if you feel that you did not cause it, is recognizing that there is a pattern happening and somehow that is related to you.

If you do your part to solve the problem and make sure that there is a plan in place for when it happens again you will be less likely to suffer bad and long consequences. Especially if it is a financial blow.

For habit changes making micro and macro goals works. 90 days plans work. But as soon as you hit that one year mark look back.

What worked? What didn't? Did you pivot or quit? Did you have to stop for any reason and could you have handled it differently? If the issue dragged for a long time could you have benefited from expert and paid help?

Answer these questions and find solutions for the next time.

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[theprincientist]

The solution to feeling misunderstood is to communicate better, not silence.

When people don't understand you, it feels as if you're suffocating very slowly and it's exhausting as well because you keep having to explain yourself. It is a very exhaustive task to translate your soul. 😔

Hearing, listening and understanding are fundamental to happy, healthy relationships.

The biggest disservice my parents did to me in my teens was to make me feel not listened to. I felt like I didn't count, so I didn't even bother to explain anymore. And that created even more misunderstandings because they didn't knew where I was coming from. It affected my social life as well. I wasn't making sure I was being listened to anymore. I felt like I didn't matter because even in my own home my opinion didn't count.

My advice is this:

Talk, and make sure people not only listen but understand you. Take up space and be brave in whatever you have to say. Be calm as you speak, don't cry or scream.

And be more interested in other people too. Don't just stand there and wait to be asked questions, show interest in others, start a conversation, be nice about it.

Do this not only with friends but family as well. Build a friendship at home. You'll find that they were listening all along but they didnt know how to communicate with you.

That's it.

[theprincientist]

Know your worth.

If you are trying to impress someone from your past or prove to them that they missed out stop.

You don't have to prove you are lovable, worthy.

If you are still trying to prove that you haven't really moved on.