always found it weird and distubing how easy and common its been for people to think that you, as a person who is X, needs the permission of some other people -who are also X- in order to be part of X community or be valid/"actually X"
Queer examples include:
-nondysphoric trans person is told they aren't trans by a dysphoric transperson
-transmasc is told they don't experience a specific intersection of transphobic violence because transfemmes ALSO experience a specific but different intersection of transphobic violence
-gay cis or binary lesbians who attempt to give out permission or denial slips to other (transmasc, nonbinary, non-cis, mspec, aspec) lesbians
-people who say a certain queer identity or person isn't queer
-young queers who now go online to ask other people for their permission/blessing to identify with a certain experience (i.e: label)
because no matter how much someone argues they have the authority to tell someone else how to identify and self describe, the 🌌Truth of the Universe🌌 is intrinsically: they do not