I swear i need a cig (a vent)
I just saw another black lesbian try to tie being a TMN/Pillow Princess to "not being really queer" because they want to be touched a certain way. Then she try to being up rhetoric based on her "data" that many TMN are actually binary Trans men (how she got there don't know). I am sick and tired of my own niche community members (black lesbians/sapphics cis or not) making TMN/Stones/Pillow Princesses/Ace feel some type of way in the community because they not getting eaten out or not doing the eating. That's not what being a lesbian or sapphic is! It not always about having sex! When we understand that I feel people will start to treat these IDs with more respect and not some fake "hot take" about how TMN/Pillow Princess/Stones are not "really queer" or how these IDs are just effects of sexual trauma (because even if it is who gives a shit). I love my Pillow princess, TMN, Ace lesbians, stones and all of the above.