How does one know if they're Asexual/aromantic?? I'm having some suspicions...
Edit: Don’t take my absolute word on this, because a lot of this is based on my own experience of being asexual and possibly aromantic. I have read several good sources on asexuality, however, and I recommend you search for some yourself. Some people can write it very well, so if I don’t help you very much, there’s always other sources to turn to.
Hmm, well… it’s kinda difficult to explain, though I’ll try my best. I know how confusing it can be to not know if you’re ace/aro or not. And it’s also good to keep in mind that this is an identity that can always change, so just because you decide to say ‘I’m asexual’ for a while, and then start to realize you’re not, or vice versa, doesn’t mean your experience or identity are any less valid.
For me it was legitimately not understanding why people would be considered ‘hot’, being absolutely grossed out by biology (the sex-ed parts made me gag and also I never understood why we had to learn), and having a complete disinterest in having sex. This being said, this is just my experience, and not every asexual is sex-repulsed or sex-neutral like I think I am. Some asexuals are okay with/like sex even if they don’t experience sexual attraction. That’s the big thing here. Even if you have a libido, which most asexuals do, you just don’t feel sexual tension/urges towards any one person.
And aromanticism kinda works in the same way, though it can be even more difficult to figure it out. I think I might actually be demiromantic, though I still prefer the aromantic label still as I’m not quite sure. It works in a similar way to asexuality, except based on romance. Generally you can still experience platonic love, something I have found quite wonderful to experience, but more often than not you won’t want what is considered romantic. I’ve always found kissing and making out to be really weird and kinda gross, and other things like giving hickies/love marks weird me out a lot. Again, an aromantic doesn’t have to hate these things, and can in fact enjoy them, but they most likely won’t want to kiss specific people.
I hope this helped some, and I’m honoured you came to me to ask about asexuality/aromanticism. I hope you figure out your identity soon, and if you have any more questions that I might be able to answer, ask away!