#phdhell

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http://moosekleenex.tumblr.com/

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When my PI asked me to train/help the other lab member I said no. Not because I’m an asshole, but because this person has literally never taken a biology class. He has never worked in a lab. He knows absolutely nothing about what I’m doing and I said I would NOT be responsible for teaching him basic things. That’s not my job. I held firm every time this guy asked me dumb shit. Oh you want me to teach you PCR but when I asked what DNA you had you asked me why you needed DNA? I told my PI to tell him to leave me alone and he stopped asking me dumb shit for a while. But he is desperate to get wet lab experience or something. 

My PI has figured out a way around my No. I was told the other grad student would be joining my undergraduate research group. I said no but it didn’t stick. 

Thing is, my undergrads are amazing. They have skills, they are getting degrees in biochemistry and public health and biology and have taken bio 001 and 002 and 30, 40, and 120, and whatever else the upper div class numbers are. They know a lot more than me in some cases. They have put in the work and deserve attention. 

I’ve been thinking about how to make my case, he’s a stoner, this is a liability issue, this is sexist af, what’s he gonna train ME to do, etc, etc, etc.

But the reality is... I said no. That should be be enough, I need to stick to it.

I am NOT training this guy. Nope. No way. 

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I am extremely tired of mediocre men asking me to do shit for them.

I am annoyed af at my PI for straight up telling me to be nice because academia is a small place. Bitch? I wouldn’t work for any these of these lesser motherfuckers! And don’t act like I don’t have loads of experience working in an industry that is tiny and incestuous already. Please.

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These cheaters got published in Nature. Why bother doing the right thing when it’s so easy to cheat? You’re not even likely to get caught unless you make seriously egregious mistakes like this: 

https://pubpeer.com/publications/D569C47E7BE09AD9D238BA526E06CA#

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The pressure to be likable keeps us from doing this hard work, keeps us from telling the truth.  Think of all the emotional labor that requires: planning each of your actions and weighing them against the emotional consequences they might have on every person, and bending yourself in anticipation of what others might feel — always scaling back your own desires and rejecting your own needs. It requires a constant negotiation of what you can say and do in the world, constantly diminishing yourself because of the effect it might have on other people — which you cannot actually control or predict. Think for a moment how much time you have spent in your life replaying conversations where maybe you said the wrong thing, or how you were maybe too curt with that person in the checkout line, or too forward with that dude you met on Tinder; how maybe you speak too much in meetings or make your views too known. How much time you have wasted fretting about whether other people like you? Just do a quick calculation: how much of your life, do you think, you have spent this way? An hour? A whole day? A week? Maybe entire years?  Lacy Johnson

https://tinhouse.com/on-likeability/?fbclid=IwAR1OwTn7iyrpWKchNkG4-IiSNTNC9rUvmwlkDlXByM108_phkl1NIJqAQ_c