#physical relationships

[iamarainstorm-blog]

I've never been one for physical relationships; I don't quite know why, but I guess I'm scared. I'm scared that too much weight is put on the physical side of a relationship. I'm scared that people become bored too quickly. I'm scared that I won't meet expectations. I'm scared people are used to moving faster than I am. But sometimes you have to face your fears ever so slowly, and my dear, I hope you know you'll have to hold my hand and walk me through every step of the way. You'll have to have patience, which you've shown a great deal of thus far. You'll have to put up with questions and occasional gaps in conversations. But most of all, you'll have to be prepared for an equally important emotional relationship, of which I promise my heart understands better than anything.

iamarainstorm, Late Night Realizations and Revelations

[zen-trash-blog]

I’ll kiss you softly and ask if I taste good, I’ll play with your hoodie strings as an excuse to touch you, I’ll call you every night and never skip a day, and I’ll let you put your head on my lap as I stroke the hair from your face. We’ll have great sex, the kind that makes you giggle after it’s over because you can’t contain your happiness. I’ll make you love me with all that you’ve got. When we’re all alone you’re going to really feel that i love you back; i won’t actually love you though, you should know that. I’m only lonely and I need your affection; i only want the physical without the connection.

What I wish he’d said instead of “Nice to meet you.” (iinzenity)

[rosemaryandparentheses]

I feel really asexual towards men.

Like, men are the bomb and I think they are cool and I like them and could date them and everything, but I have no desire at all to be in a physical relationship with a man. Kissing? Sure. Holding hands? Sure. Romantic dates? Sure. Any sex thing? Nope.

Finally sorting things out.

[compilingcomposure]

having an interesting night, im struggling to sleep.

im feeling very odd because for almost a year now i've been near incapable of emotional connection to others, i've tried dating twice now since getting out of a somewhat long relationship. but i feel strangely apart and reserved when in relationships. i don;t know if i fear commitment?

i find purely physical relationships easier and preferable, primarily because i find myself emotionally lacking.

[dasnobbreport-blog]

Chai Tea: Physical Relationships

For those of you still tripping and not following me on twitter @SnobbyGyrl when I say Chai Tea it means I'm giving you the biz straight no chaser or that you just served up the biz straight no chaser. 

Now, to the topic at hand...Purely physical relationships. 

I personally don't think there is anything wrong with them.  However, I think you need to do some very important things if you are going to engage in them.

First thing first, be honest with you.  If you know that you are inherently an emotional person, a purely physical relationship is probably not a great idea for you.  Check your timeline, if you RT the movie "The Notebook" account bare minimum 4-5 times a week, I promise you this life is not for you.  I mean, there is nothing wrong with being an emotional person (I can't even believe I just wrote that), but you have to own that and not put yourself in situations that are going to get your feelings hurt. 

Next, you have to have a very open line of communication with that person.  You have to be able to talk to this person, because if you do catch feelings you want to be able to just sit down and say "this was for me at one point, but because my feelings have changed, I need to remove myself from this situation".  There should not be a cause for acting a bona fide ass if you both went into this knowing what it is and what it ain't.  That would be the other reason communication is important, because you both need to be on the same page before you start wrinkling and staining perfectly good egyptian cotton sheets (I know some of yall still sleeping on them 250 joints from KMart, no shade, but ... treat yourself better and get some good sheets-i digress). 

Although, I feel like this should not even need to be said, because it should go without saying, I am going to say it anyway.... protection should not be an option.  If you are having a purely physical relationship with someone you clearly do not want this person to be the person you co-parent with, so YTF would you put yourself in a position to create a life with this person.  Further, for you individuals who are not as forward a person as me, you damn sure do not want to contract something because you may not be the only person they are in a physical relationship.  And to keep it all the way one trillion, if he or she is willing to go raw with you, YOU AINT THAT SPECIAL, they going, gone, or will go raw with someone else. PROTECT YOURSELF. 

Now, I am not immune to feelings, contrary to popular belief, but the one thing I always do in all my relationships, be it just physical or more, I always state my B.I.  If the status of the relationship is fine with me, I say that.  If I want more, I say that.  If I want less, I say that.  I also ask for the same in return.  I assure you, Ms. Cleo was not even a mind reader, so if you don't tell the other person what's on your mind they do not know.  People don't convince yourself that shit is something its not.  You will find yourself hurt and bitter...and for what? Stick dick and bubble gum or damp box and tic tacs ... its just not ever worth the headache in my opinion. 

XOXO 

Snobby Gyrl