I dont know how much this will actually help, but sharing/relating to experiences can help with being in your feels
I'm aroace. On the spectrum, anyway. Yes in theory, no idea in practice, all that fun stuff – not important. The point is, I don't really feel all that romantic stuff or desire to kiss and everything. I've only done it a handful of times – hell, my first kiss wasn't even until my senior year of high school. Been on maybe...3 dates total?
I get what it's like to be insecure about that stuff. Not knowing if what you're doing is right or not. All the feelings. How to go about kissing and just being with a person in a romantic context in general. And it sucks. It really does. When it seems like everyone else knows something you don't and when it doesn't work or seem to fit – it sucks. You feel like there's something wrong with you.
I don't know of you're aro or ace. Both. Neither. Not going to indulge into the labels and microlabels without further prompting. But from this particular lens, I just gotta say that I get it, I understand. I've been there and I'll continue to be there.
Lots of people are there.
You're not alone in feeling like insecure or upset.
Also know that whatever you're feeling is valid, okay?
…You don’t understand. I’m not…insecure.
I just need to do some research.