Why it isn’t wise to look for a date at the bar - Part II.
A favorite blog post of mine, and one of my most popular, is one I wrote about night clubs creating a lemon market for dating (Why it isn't wise to look for a date at the bar). A friend of mine recently did their own analysis and it was so good that I've decided to share it. They asked me to keep them anonymous, so I haven't provided their name.
The below was written about individuals (of either sex) looking for dates at a night club or bar.
There is not a single underlying "quality" for each person. Instead, suppose each of us has two kinds of quality: Outside and Inside.
Outside can be directly observed: it includes looks as well as displays of wealth (clothing, shoes, jewelry, watches).
Inside can only be assessed via conversation (intelligence, wit) and observing behaviour over time (loyalty, truthfulness).
At a nightclub there are some impediments to observing Outside (the dark, the strobes you mentioned) but Inside is almost entirely unobserved at the bar.
So what should we expect? People who are strong on Inside but weak on Outside should definitely avoid bars.
Since a strong outside is observable in non-bar contexts, people have high scores on Outside and Inside will do better at some place besides a bar.
But people who are strong Outside and weak Inside will do better at bars where their weak Inside is difficult to observe.
Whether night clubs can survive as an institution depends on a large enough population of high quality Outsides that don't mind foregoing inside quality in their partners.
My model can explain why nightclubs would be loud. It protects strong Outsides from competition from Inside. What i can't explain is why night clubs are poorly lit. That would help the strong Outsides who the night-club is trying to attract.