Updated rules for interacting w. me, 2024
Be 18 + to interact. 22+ to discuss having a connection with me in an intimate manner or in a romantic or BDSM sense. I'm growing as a person and currently as of writing this, 33 and finding the world alongside me is changing. This age limit will go up as I age and also for me is just me keeping myself to a path where I grow and age in a way I feel comfortable with. I am not going to sever connections I already have but I am drawing this line now so I and you can feel safe. Power dynamics are what I am going to not enforcce so as to nota cause harm.
I deserve to be treated with respect and you do too. To convince myself that is true, I want to be asked if I'm in a horny headspace before any kink talk and I will endeavour to do the same for you. It can feel cold and icky when you feel you're only useful in a kink space and it's a reason I use safewords or establish boundaries with others clearly and concisely.
- Be patient. I struggle to understand emotions and intent and I take things at face value while scared of what someone might be thinking/secretly hating. So just be open and up front if you have a problem or communicate clearly and concisely if you are happy. It can be that simple. I will do my best to build connection by reaching out but you have to give me the time and patience to respond. - I've rebuilt my ability to reach out and connect to people and trust as I do, it will be easier for people to reach back out and connect right back. I love and support all of you who take the time to do so with me but also ask indeed, for a mutual connection and one that is built deeply upon respect for both my time and yours.
If you've got a problem, I emphasize, say so. I can try to parse but I simply struggle to identify a lot of cues and however much I push myself too, it is easiest when someone clearly communicates when a boundary is touched or a line crossed. I need that mutual communication. It is another reason I bring up safewords and am working on implementing them even in non-sexual contexts. - Considering topics of sexuality, while I will assume if brought up by myself or you, that we will signal to the other if we're not in the mood to play but I will - I am plain in speaking, quite open about being polyam and having crushes and mention or have mentioned both out of fear not saying so means you might feel manipulated if those feelings go hidden or unsaid if we grow closer as people. Mentioning them isn't me intending to force you to do as I desire or hope but for clarity and so I can openly and simply communicate a change in perspective or growth. Please state if simply saying this makes you uncomfortable.
Wednesday and Saturday are my rest days. Leave messages but I will not respond to messages at this time.
Sunday is my Planning Day, which goes currently up to two weeks in advance. You should reach out during this time.
Break any of these rules without telling me or try to circumvent them, we can talk about why. It doesn't have to be an end to friendship. But choose to thoughtlessly, repeatedly and maliciously and you will find my kindness evaporates quite fast.
