#plurmisia

[proudfictive]

If you're a singlet (someone who is not plural), I can guarantee you that you know at least one system offline. Probably, you know multiple systems.

Any of your friends or family members could be part of a system. Any of your classmates or coworkers could, too. Even your partner could be a system.

Plural systems usually do not announce our plurality. Because of the massive stigma around plurality, we try to pass as singlets. My system does this every day. My headmates have friends they've known for a decade who don't know we're plural.

It's said that dissociative disorders are very rare, but they're not. Trauma can and does happen to anyone. And many systems don't have dissociative disorders at all.

Systems are all around you. It's time to start treating us with the same respect you'd give anyone else.

[proudfictive]

Stop saying that everyone needs therapy. Stop saying that everyone would benefit from therapy.

I hear this take a lot, that everyone has things they need to work through in therapy. It's a bad take that ignores that therapists bring their own personal biases and opinions to the table.

I'm a fictive in a system. Theoretically, it would help me to work through my trauma. But every therapist we've seen has been biased against plural systems. We recently had to fire a therapist for saying that we're not plural, we just have an "active imagination."

For some people, going to therapy means being disbelieved, or not taken seriously, or even harmed.

If you can access a therapist who isn't bigoted against you, good. But you might want to start listening to those of us who've experienced the opposite.

[transandrosis]

I& feel so disrespected.

We've gotten into the habit of reading the clinical notes every time we have an appointment because we don't like the idea of people talking behind our backs. This morning we found out that our therapist told our psychiatrist that we're not having dissociation but just have a "big imagination."

This stings so much.

I know we don't fit the classic DID stereotype of having a host who's unaware of their alters and has complete amnesia. We still have severe memory loss though!

Our system developed due to emotional abuse and verbal abuse instead of the kind of severe physical or sexual child abuse that most people associate with DID. It feels like our therapist is saying that this kind of trauma doesn't even count as being trauma. Besides that, it's possible to have a system that doesn't stem from trauma at all!

We've been plural since we were 12 and our therapist thinks we've just had imaginary friends this entire time????

I'd try to find another therapist but the thing is that we've never once had a therapist who actually believed that plurality exists or who treated plurals respectfully. 😡

[isejas]

austistic as well. your comment on my ask was also passive-aggressive, but here, for the sake of understanding.

there's not really a joke to explain. op made a humorous observation. comic books don't necessarily draw from real life. having an evil alter-ego might be reminiscent of DID experiences, and that's valid to feel. but to say that every single fan of hulk is repressing/unaware of their own DID makes no sense. because that's just not true- more people like hulk than have DID, because as relatable as he may seem to systems, he's also relatable to other people as well.

the op was saying that white guys who act like heisenberg is a separate person from walter white- a protectir, someone who takes over for him- are basing that reading of heisenberg on their experiences with other media- namely, comic books. this was written in the post. op said 'white guys who read comic books are applying schema of separate personas to other media, and it's silly- those who watch the show with a lens of analysis can see that heisenberg is a self-made, self-perpetuated alter ego that has no separation in mind or body at all'.

then, you not only claimed that the reference to personas was because of the aforementioned white guys' DID, a diagnosis that's inappropriate to apply to wide swathes of people without more knowledge of them- and of the context. but you ALSO did it in such a way that insinuated the op was being cruel, malicious, or targeting those with DID, diagnosed or not-yet diagnosed.

this was inappropriate because you did not use the context available in the post, and, in addition, did not acknowledge you are missing some outside context (breaking bad, comic book culture) that would have made either research, asking questions, or not commenting better options for you. further, your comment was inappropriate because you passive-aggressively ascribed mal-intent to a stranger online, publicly. again, without having the context needed to see if your comment was legitimate based on the post and not your assumptions.

thanks for the explanation.

i did not say "everybody who reads this media this way has DID". i said that i saw plurality in that take. not all plurality comes from complex dissociative disorders.

the post read to me like "these people are wrong and laughable for seeing plurality in their media" where it isn't made clear to be actual plurality (and where plurality likely wasn't even intended or considered) but like uhmmm. have u seen the amount of plurality representation? there's nothing to see. many people don't even know about plurality at all, other than stereotypes about DID, so many people don't know to ever consider they might be plural.

and btw. maybe this is not obvious but im not some huge blog where me making a comment is some huge public statement. this is my personal blog where i post my thoughts and like sorry but people are gonna see that in their notes and it's up to them if they wanna interact further.