You know when you check the weather
to see if is cold enough to wear a scarf
even though you haven’t even left
your apartment and you’re already cold?
That’s what it’s like to grieve over heartbreak.
Like you have to find similar love pains
to suit your process to make sure
you’re allowed to feel this insatiably sad.
You put the scarf on anyway
but now it’s even more difficult to breathe.
it feels like it’s suffocating you
even though it’s wrapped loosely around your neck.
It’s the knots in your throat
that you can’t swallow or cry or smoke away.
Sometimes my body is a bullet casing
but no one ever sympathizes with the bullet.
Imagine what it must feel like
to rip through another human being
so easily, at such an alarming rate.
Sometimes the clouds are claustrophobic.
Sometimes they are exactly what I need to feel held.
Sometimes I’m am taken aback at how beautiful I look
after I’ve been sitting in my apartment crying all damn day.
I wonder if my next door neighbors can hear me.
I wonder if the weight of my aching
seeps through the thin walls and drapes over their furniture.
The damage done by smoking is so silent.
So silent until your lungs begin to collapse.
The same way they collapse
when you show up unexpectedly,
and it’s still such a quiet cave in.
It just feels,
it just sounds,
so groundbreaking on the inside.
Different Stages of the Let Go: Water Weight, Ivy Dowhan