#poliamorie

[ravenvonbloodimirthefirst]

Poliamorous yet single

[nomonogamylove]

Why the majority won’t understand us?

This morning I’ve been discussing with Rafael, why the society has such a big influence on how the standard relationship should look like and why for the open-minded people like us it is harder to cope with it.

We found an answer in Maslow’s pyramid: all three of us are already between stage four and five, each of us still has to develop one or another need, but the first three needs are already achieved. When I first met Rafael, I was working on my need for belonging and love, now I feel it on the top.

The problem is, that the majority is craving for love, many people are pushed to be in a relationship, because else they won’t fit in the trend of successful couples. Others judge, gossip and throw weird looks, claiming that polyamory is an abnormal way of relationship, where people cheat and betray each other.

This is why people, who didn’t fully complete their stage three, won’t be able to understand and accept us. You have to master something first to be able to move on.

[etherealmaggot]

You said send a reason why polyamory is lgbtq+. I’d like to argue that it can be, but not always. It can allow people of various sexual orientations to have various gay, heterosexual, ace, etc relationships at once. I’d say that the only time it isn’t lgbtq+ is if it’s a relationship where heterosexuals only date other heterosexuals.

I agree with your argument. Polyamory as a relationship style can be LGBTQ+ under certain conditions.

However, in the statement I gave before, I used the term polyamory as the abilty to fall/be in love with or simply love romantically more than one person at the same time, thus, it does not belong to the LGBTQ+ term. On the other hand, it is possible to put this definition under the LGBTQ+ umbrella term depending on how we define LGBTQ+.

In the end, I still consider polyamory a romantic orientation which is parallel to other kinds of orientations, or at least a relationship orientation. Even though LGBTQ+ entails orientations and identitities, I still can’t put the term polyamory under the “queer” umbrella term. 

I hope I have made my point clearer than before, and I apologise for not giving my definition of polyamory.

Have a great life.