Good Questions to Ask your Partners
When entering into a relationship, even a monogamous one, there's a lot of questions you should ask. It gets even more complicated when you are involved with more than one person, which is why communication is VERY important in a poly relationship. Each partner or partners will likely not follow the same general set of guidelines (or lack of), so it's important to discuss limits and preferences. It takes time and questioning, but it is definitely something you should do with a partner that you want to become sexually active with. Here's a few questions to get you started:
Have you been tested for STD's recently?
What are you comfortable with during sex? Is there something that you absolutely are not comfortable or hesitant about?
What is your preffered birth control?
How would you like to go about adding new partners into the relationship?
How many partners do you want in a relationship?
Are you interested in a family?
Are we going to be able to engage in sexual activity outside of the relstionship?
If so, what are the limits of said activity?
What happens if someone does something another partner does not like? How will that issue be addressed?
Are you comfortable with being openly polyamorous?
Keep in mind that these are just a few questions, and each partner may need more specific questions. Polyamory can work, but you can't force anything. If you feel like you're changing too much for the relationship, it might be best to pause, and re-evaluate, and if needed end the relationship.