#polyamory unicorn

[s3c0ndstar2ther1ght]

[so-we-have-come-to-this]

I told G what a unicorn was and he joked that it made us unicorn hunters.

After signing up on Tinder and presenting myself as a bi poly woman (I’m also dating solo), I see how hunting kinda sucks for the unicorn.

5 minutes into the poly lifestyle and I’ve been aggressively hit on by several couples with strict rules who got upset that I have a husband and stopped replying.

I understand that some people have a specific ideal for their relationship and that is fine.

Being upfront about it is also fine but the ‘hunters’ I’ve talked to should really reconsider their approach.

[marauderluna]

FOLLOWERS!

Hey y'all! If my polyamory posts dwindle down, that's because I made a blog specific for my adventures in the polyamory lifestyle.

lunastriad

I know I wrote previously about my boyfriend and girlfriend using initials, but lets have it a bit more personal :3

luna = R-me, would call myself wolfie, but that'd get confusing ;p

wolf = C-boyfriend of 5+ years, my primary

kitsune = K- me n wolf's unicorn! (bisexual woman who is dating a couple) ^3^

Also, a bit of a side note on how I view the primary and secondary roles. To me, since Wolf and I have been in a long term, committed relationship, he is my primary, he has the most important spot in my heart. But that spot is only for him, I can't love any other person the same as him. With Kitsune, she's new for me, in almost every aspect. I've never dated or even been with a girl, and I've only had one relationship, the one with Wolf. But she has a special spot in my heart as well. They both are equal in our relationship as in the three of us are treated equally, but - well this sounds childish (and it probably is...) I was his first. We all with be equals, just my relationship with Wolf won't change at all- ... I know I'm a tad confusing to follow... It's hard to get my words down right.. glad Wolf understands that, Kit's getting used to my randomness ^^"

[marauderluna]

Sooo, comin out of the tumblr closet...

Yeah, if anyone cant tell by now, I'm polyamorous - and I'm in my first poly relationship. This was difficult for me because not only am I in a committed relationship with my boyfriend of 5 years, I also have ASD and anxiety/depression issues to bring some chaos to the party. I forgot to mention that my boyfriend has been my <i>only</i> boyfriend, so me and socializing aren't my forte.

Thing is, me n C (boyfriend) already talked about our curiosity of polyamory - we both agreed that it has to be mutual and it can only be a girl. Now, before anyone starts flaming cause of C's rule let me explain: he has had a history of cheating girlfriends and is paranoid, always thinking I'd leave him for someone better (ain't anxiety fun y'all -hint hint sarcasm-) but I agreed to it because I'm incredibly shy around new people - especially guys when I find out they have any feelings for me (and that my mentality is more wolfish as in "i already have a mate") - plus I wanted to explore my bicuriosity.

Well, with that hurdle cleared, we moved onto the next (after meeting our unicorn - lets call heeerrr....K , agreeing to be in an equal relationship. It was a hurdle for me because, as C would like to put it, his paranoia rubbed off onto me - i was worried that i'd become second to him, i needed to hear from him that nothing would change between us. So me, K, and C hit it off - and when she picked him up (from NOLA) she brought him to Ruston (nothern louisiana - where i go to school) for the night before whisking him away to Virginia. The usual anxiety/ASD moment happened with me, I avoided eye contact, minimal physical contact, speaking in puzzles.. all my years of training myself to function as normal as i could socially went straight out the window... but we all had fun at the hotel room, i brought noms n my xbox for gaming n movies and i got to give C his late 22nd bday gift - sake! ..

yeah, that night was fun.. so now instead of all 3 of us being long distance, i'm the only long distance party.. its lonely, and being in a different time zone doesnt help... but itll get better :3