10 Things I Wish I'd Known During My Confinement
While some mothers sail through their confinement / post-delivery period, I didnât find it smooth sailing at all. I had a lot of problems; Baby Dozer needing to be readmitted with jaundice, breastfeeding issues, exhaustion, unreliable confinement lady, struggling to cope with traditional confinement methods, etc.Â
Now that things have settled down somewhat, I look back and canât help but think, âI wish someone had told me that.âÂ
Todayâs post was written in the hopes that if youâre a new mother or an expecting mother reading this, you you wonât have to go through the same pains that I did.Â
Here are 10 things I wish Iâd known back then:
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I was terribly hot and sweaty during confinement, most likely from all the ginger consumed that I assumed Baby Dozer was hot like me too. So I decided not to swaddle him in case he over heated. Wrong move. On hindsight, I wish Iâd swaddled him more. Perhaps he would have slept better and probably felt safer. I recall how he seemed to cry a lot and I just assumed that babies do cry a lot.
I rebelled against the idea of sleeping when Baby Dozer slept. I tried to do it but often felt frustrated that I was wasting my time sleeping. Reality check! I needed that sleep badly especially when Baby Dozer was feeding every 2 hours throughout the day and night. Confinement period = doing nothing but feed baby, eat and sleep!
3. Covered baby thoroughly whenever we went out
Picture from likecoolbaby.com
Yes, I had to bring Baby Dozer back to hospital for checks during confinement and I should have bundled him up and probably swaddled him for good measure. Thereâs definitely no scientific proof but I wonder if I could have avoided his colicky and very tumultuous period if Iâd been more cautious about bundling him up despite the hot Malaysian weather. By bundling him up, I mean wearing a beanie to prevent the âwindâ from entering his body and long sleeves and long shirts.
4. Reduced my cowâs milk intake
With the increasing number of babies being allergic to cowâs milk protein, I should have stopped my milk intake just to be safe. As it turned out, Baby Dozer is indeed allergic to cowâs milk and poor baby had to suffer months of severe rashes before I finally found out.
5. Bundled myself up more
Strangely even though I did feel hot and sweaty constantly throughout my confinement period, there were times when I also felt chilled. Old wivesâ tales have some truth to them after all and the body is weak after delivery. I should have prepared more long-sleeved tops or at least t-shirts with longer sleeves, socks and house slippers to wear throughout my confinement. Thankfully my body bounced back pretty quickly and I passed my confinement period rather uneventfully.
IKEA Gulliver changing table
Towards the end of my confinement, I started to get rather severe backaches, caused by constant bending to change Baby Dozerâs diapers. I would change his diapers on the bed as I didnât have a proper table to do it. Bad decision. I purchased an IKEA diaper table shortly after he turned 1 month and my only regret was not buying it earlier!!!
The elderlies advised me to use napkins and nappy liners to save money as baby would be using lots of diapers. âIf you have a maid to do washing, why not use napkins?â I heeded their advice and bought A LOT of napkins. Baby Dozer is now 9 months old and I still have at least 1 box of unused napkins. Why? Within 2 days of using napkins, I found that it was too messy, baby ended up being soiled and the amount of time spent on washing napkins was just ridiculous.
8. Done away with a confinement lady and gotten a mail
CAUTION: This advice is only valid if you have someone at home who knows confinement recipes and can cook for you!
I felt so depressed upon returning from the hospital because Baby Dozer was sleeping with the confinement lady. My mother instinct was screaming, âI want to be in the same room as my baby!â But everyone said I needed the rest. Well, what happened was I could hardly sleep because I was worried and kept going into the confinement ladyâs bedroom to check on Baby Dozer. In the end, I had to fire my confinement lady anyway as she wasnât capable and ended giving the whole family lots of problems.
My well-meaning family members warned me ominously that I was going to spoil Baby Dozer with all that cuddling and he was going to get so used to it that I would never be able to put him down in future. WRONG ASSUMPTIONS! If you read a lot of baby advice these days, most articles state that babies canât be spoilt yet, definitely not when theyâre a month old. I can attest to that because only after Baby Dozer turned 4 months did he start to really show signs of trying to get his way. Before that, each cry of his was a genuine cry of NEED and I wish I had hugged him more.
10. Thanked my husband more
I never would have had the privilege of breastfeeding till today had it not been for my husband. He did not understand fully why I wanted to put myself through all that âsufferingâ but made sure I was able to do it just because I insisted. He would carry Baby Dozer to me because I was so tired, burp baby after, change babyâs diapers, put baby to sleep, fetch me my phone to keep me entertained, dutifully record babyâs feeding times and duration, made sure my mug was full of red date water, etc. - and all this after his full time day job every day!
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