#potentialmate

[missyoyo]

I am not side-chick material!

Do I look like side-chick material? Do I wear a sign that says "married men apply here"? The answer to both of those is a giant HELL NO! So why do only mostly (yeah just roll with it) married men try to date me? Hello if you're married you can't date anyone else! I swear married men think they really have something to offer me. You can't be available to me, you can't put down roots, I can't bring you home to meet the family, hell we can't go out in public. And the biggest thing, you can't be faithful or trustworthy. If you are stepping out on your wife, you are not a good mate or potential mate. You definitely have nothing to offer me. You play on single women's emotions. Telling them things they want to hear. You see a single independent woman and you think that's a deal because she has her own and she won't require you to give anything financially. BOY! Don't nobody want your money, we have our own. What we want is a faithful, attentive man that is ours not belonging to someone else. We don't want to share! So do yourself, YOUR WIFE, and all the women you try to talk to- a favor. Stop stepping outside your marriage! If you are unfulfilled then tell your wife. If you aren't happy, tell your wife. If you want to see other people, tell your wife. STOP coming on and trying to date single women! Some of us will take you're dusty ass but me, I'm going to tell you about yourself and if I come across your wife and she ask me about you, I'm going to tell her all of your business. Why? Because I don't lie and I'm not married to your wife, you are.

[4na]

5+ traits/qualities of my potential mate

i. Lighthearted

I would like him to be carefree and cheerful, even though he's having the roughest time of his life. It takes a lot of strength for someone to be happy at that particular moment, and it's something that I wish to gradually learn from him. 

ii. Intelligent

Intelligence is a big turn on for me. I've always found it interesting and appreciate people who could have deep conversations for hours, without finding it frustrating or lame. I'd really like one who would be all random and tells me about his theory on a new inspiration or anything that just crossed his mind etc. I want someone who's able to inspire me and open up my mind! I'd prefer him to be a tumblr-stumbleupon-weheartit-pinterest-youtube addict as well.

iii. Possessive

I don't know somehow, I find this trait really cute and adorable because it shows how much he doesn't want to lose me. I don't mean all possessive like I can't shake another guy's hand, but in a sense that would be too much for him to bear. Instead of bitchin' at me for accidentally crossing the border, I'd also like him to be straight forward about it, making me understand the inability to control his feelings if he can't; instead of losing temper, going IHATEYOUDIEYOUVILECREATURE mad at me or the other.

iv. Kindness

A good heart keeps me feeling safe and secure, and it melts me right down to the core when I see an act of kindness. kudos to minions I wouldn't mind him being kind to other girls, because he would be intelligent enough to know his boundaries and such. I'd really appreciate if he would be able to give constructive criticism in a kind manner as well. Because a bad temper is a big no-no, sarcasm is funny; he would be slow at picking serious fights, because he wouldn't want me to see me get hurt. but I don't mind silly arguments

v. Playful

I'd really love a guy who's a child at heart, because that means we could do a lot of childish things together and I wouldn't have to hear him say, "Grow up." most of the time. Maybe we'd sneak into some kid's playground- you know the one with a lot of small, colourful balls? Yeah, and we're too smart to get caught. Maybe even try to pull a prank on our friends? I'm sure we'd come up with something funny and amazing.

vi. Honesty

This trait is important to me because it takes guts to be honest and come clean. I believe that no one is free from mistakes and we all learn from it- well, at least we try. He should at least tell me about his mistake. I don't really care about his dark deadly past as long as he's trying his best to learn from it. Because that way he won't be caught in a pile of lies after lies and be self destructive.

vii. Caring

Of course, as overrated as this trait sounds, but I fancy one who would ask me what's going on when I act out of the ordinary. I'd really appreciate his nurturing gestures as well and his effort to get the beans out of the can. Okay that sounded weird. 

  viii. Weird

I honestly prefers someone who is weird and unique in his own way, because I'm not really sane normal to be honest. I'd adore someone who is able to relate his weirdness to mine, and being able to be comfortable in his skin. I bet he longs the same as I do, for someone to have the ability to understand that beautiful side of him and accepts it.

ix. Passionate

I could never love a guy who's cold towards me 24/7. I dream for one to be really sensible and puts an effort to open the door for me or bring me a flower or two. Surprise me with gifts at random times, even if it's not anything expensive like just a simple note, it would certainly brighten up my day. Less is more? Of course, I dig a man who's able to accept my not-so-good side as well as my stupidity and my dumb mistakes. 

x. This final trait? That's a secret I'll never tell.