I was already pretty hesitant about trying POF but I figured it's a new year and why not. I've tried dating in the real world but with my schedule and availability, I'm just not meeting anyone. So I downloaded the POF app. I get a lot of messages and I filter through them. Of course you have the "only looking for sex" guys. Then you have the married guys...not sure why they said they were single in their profile. And of course you have the no job or no transportation guys. And living where I live, having a car is a necessity. So I edit my profile to clarify some key things I would like in a potential match: no jail time (you'd be surprise how many people just got out of jail or even still in jail...how the hell do you have access to a dating app!?!), must have reliable transportation (i.e. your own car), must have your own place (really don't want anyone living with their parents, grandparents or God forbid their baby mother(s), must be kind and respectable, must believe in equal rights for all, must not be racist, homophobic, xenophobic, etc..., must be ok with dating a black feminist, and of course must be ok with dating a plus size woman. Now I know that looks like a lot, believe me I've been told I want a robot by some of the guys. It's just after being in the dating world and 35, I kind of know what I don't want and some of what I do want. That's not saying this is a complete list but it is a starting point. You'd be surprise of how many guys look at my picture then message me without reading my profile. There are also the guys who read it and act like they are that type of guy I'm looking for but start off a message by saying "hey sexy" or "can I have your number". So I went ahead and added a couple of things to my profile like: no I don't exchange numbers until I am comfortable and don't call me sexy, cutie or any other pet names. I also decided to get a TextNow app so no matter what I can give out a number but not my number when and if I do feel comfortable. I've made mistakes and I've adjusted for those mistakes. I don't know if I'll meet anyone on this site. So far it's not looking too good. But I am learning a lot about people and how I interact with guys and how I use put up with unnecessary shit. I'm learning not to allow anyone to waste my time because I'm just trying to be nice or give everyone a chance. Everyone doesn't deserve a chance. When will I find love, I don't know. But I've decided to enjoy the journey and see what comes my way. This should be interesting.