This NYE, the girls and I decided to go for something different. We love the fireworks, but it seems like we watch the same thing every year, so this time, we decided to go to the beach and watch the early NYE fireworks on the coastline.
As we chilled at the beach, waiting for the fireworks to start, we had some dnm talks. One that struck me the most was friendship.
Ever since i was young, I was never the type to openly talk about my private matters or feelings to anyone, even my friends. At one point in junior high, my friends were upset with me as i rarely ever share any matter with them. I realised then, that i was quite a private person; i don't like sharing my feelings or anything private with anyone. Not even someone who I consider my close friend. If no one asks (which is pretty much all the time), then i wouldn't say anything. But ever since that incident, i would always try to be more open about things to people whom i am comfortable with.
Nowadays, if say, i keep spamming a friend on social media or messages about my daily mishaps, exciting events, happenings, and/or anything worth sharing, that means i consider that friend to be a close one. So, i would assume that they would think the same, and share things with me... as friends would do. However if one doesn't give the effort to share anything with me, I don't feel like i want to share anything with them. I mean why should i?
The point i'm trying to make is... friendship is not a one way thing. It takes two to tango. The whole point of friendship is to share and care. Make you're friends feel included, don't leave anyone behind. For example, invite all of your close friends to dinner, even though you already know that X is not in town or has other appointments. Do it out of courtesy, to let them know that 'yes, even if you're not here, we wish you were.'
Even though this post might not sound very positive, I would just like to shed some light on this matter of friendship. As a new years resolution for 2015, I am trying to be more positive and have a better outlook on life.
So to end this post, I would like to say that , from all the things I mentioned above... maybe sometimes with friends, you have to give the benefit of the doubt <as a friend had told me moments ago>.
