#pridecat rants

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i still think it's fucking hilarious that part of my callout thread on mcytdrama was just being realistic (without bias or malice) about how trying to prevent white ppl from interacting with you on the internet entirely is gonna leave you disappointed, sorta like saying cishets (albeit less common in such spaces) or cis women or any men overall. that made them mad fr and i'm not sorry 😭 (i also have another story about such topics, but i'm sure no one cares)

anyways this does NOT include things like "white ppl who" (white dsmp fans, white allistic adhders, white discoursers, etc.) this is entirely about the majority group as a whole UNLESS. it's specifically meant to be a Black safe space, vent space about racism, boosting Black funds (which wouldn't make sense if you need the boost imo?? but still respectable ig), etc. stuff like that's the exception.

i just bring it up cause of this (wouldn't saying "white allistic adhders" be redundant if whites in general can't interact anyway said beforehand? just say "allistic adhders", js 🤔):

and i'm not trying to police DNIs here - i'm gonna ignore it regardless until i'm blocked (assuming it's related to opinions and/or fandoms for the most part) unless it's reasonable common sense (18+/minors, proshippers, whites in poc-only spaces, etc.) all i'm saying is that i'm not afraid to be openly critical and realistic about how weird i think your made-up curation system is as of recent. but of course nobody would ever want to believe anything better of me, i know lmfao. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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the owl house, in my opinion, has gathered the wrong audience when it comes to lessons about behavior, as in the exact opposite of its target audience (excluding lgbt youth, of course) and once i explain it, i'm going to unapologetically make many teens who enjoy it in online fandom spaces very mad. c:

the whole premise of the show is that luz is a neurodivergent outcast who was rejected and made fun of back at home for enjoying and doing things deemed weird and unacceptable. she was isolated because her interests were disapproved of by her peers. she found another community of other rejected "weirdos" through the portal and felt like she could be herself again. luz, of all characters, understands what it is like to feel isolated because everything you do is presumably wrong in the eyes of others and you do not understand why that is, considering your intention was only ever to entertain yourself and curate your social experience to be more comfortable.

and yet, that memo seems to fly completely over the heads of toh stans who think they have the right to socially outcast people whom they deem as freaks just because of their interests, whether that be via "DNI" lists for accounts designed to be openly public safe/positivity spaces for various groups of people (such as one of those "cafe delivery" services for lesbians, a bot writing quotes and messages and creating nice flags for bisexuals, etc.), or by having the fucking audacity to call people out for revealing themselves to enjoy dsmp content and then mass qrt them with harassment because of the majority verdict against the dsmp being "problematic" and "bad." toh stans are the most vile bullies i know, especially on twitter, where they love to... gatekeep the show... from people they deem as freaks... while turning around and declaring how much they love luz, whose entire character revolves around... being deemed a freak... hmm. do you see the hypocrisy here??

luz is a greatly unique comfort character for me in such a way that i like to remind myself, "luz noceda wouldn't hate you for your hyperfixations and special interests the way everyone else would", which is ironically painful because i see shit all the time like, "luz noceda would hate dsmp fans, or [insert any given "problematic media" here]" and it's strange, because one of these statements is just so blatantly false due to how and why she was written in the first place. i'll never understand antis who use her as a scapegoat to not just be wrong about the point they're making, but to intentionally hurt others they dislike. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

in my case, i'm talking about the toh stans who threw temper tantrums back in august when they learned that tubbo (twitch streamer associated with dream & the like - not too closely, but definitely directly fyi) decided to just. watch the show (not bring the fandom into it or overrun it with "cishet/whitewashed" dsmp AUs, whatever that even means... just... watch it. and he said he liked it. that was it.). because they realistically couldn't figure out how to effectively gatekeep it from him and his "freak" socially unacceptable (/s) stans with the spread of the modern version of the cheese touch or something, lmfao. but really, it goes for just about anything. the point of this post is to call out a fandom that preaches having pride in what makes you different, while hating people they do not understand and have prejudiced assumptions and stereotypes against, therefore making them different. i'm sure many of them don't realize it, but it wouldn't surprise me if most do and just refuse to care because of the moral superiority complex they seem to get out of acting this way, lol.

and in the case of the dsmp receiving the verdict of being supposedly "problematic" and therefore making it okay to deem fans/supporters as unworthy and subhuman, that doesn't fucking matter, because you're missing the point. consumers of these livestreams and videos are not hurting minorities just by watching from home like you seem to think, whether directly or indirectly, but you are hurting autistic people and people with adhd when you dismiss these (coming in few numbers btw) clingy attachment sources that actually bring them seratonin, satisfaction, and stimulation when most other sources can't simply because of how selective our wired-this-way brains are, as choices - malicious choices, at that. i am not accepting any challenge to argue or debate about how "important" it is to let go of these hyperfixations and special interests to make some entitled social justice warriors online feel better, and if you attempt that with me you're going to get angrily blocked, i don't care. but i won't leave it at this; i did [write a post] last month that i suggest both agreers and especially dissenters read, going on a necessary rant about how this kind of ableism hurts neurodivergent youth and for... what effective cause, exactly? i probably explained it better there than i did here, but here i reworded it in a way that supports the specific point of this post.

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so i coincidentally stumbled across this tweet on my tl and i figure it probably won't mean anything to anyone, but it does mean something to me, especially now. so even though i announced a hiatus, i think i should rant about it here.

i don't really know how to describe it... i've just been waiting for at least a year now for somebody to just. i dunno. recognize and acknowledge, even if indirectly where i can't even reach out, that being a part of the popular majority hate mob doesn't necessarily make you right, and the subject/victim of all that targetted harassment isn't always necessarily a terrible irredeemable person. hurt people hurt people, y'know?? and what you see on the surface is not... this black-and-white credible overview of how or why that person thinks.

as a young autistic person who's been researching for many months even before suspecting ASD about the possibilities of also struggling with BPD, it really does always feel like the entire world is constantly against and out to get me, and being told that directly by someone who has the privilege of hiding behind an anonymous name with malicious intent like i'm a circus animal or something, i'm not gonna react well to that without lashing out defensively, yeah, that's to be expected of myself. these disorders cause everything i say and do to come off as hurtful, so it gets to a point where i just stop caring and change my mindset to "fuck it, if it doesn't matter what my intention is in relation to how it gets taken as, i might as well be spiteful - that way i can release some anger if nothing else changes" (hence why [i snapped and (partially) ranted in caps] about not giving a fuck if being a dsmp fan makes me come off as horribly racist, even when i think that's not true and honestly don't understand such black-and-white thinking).

so the point is, there's something deeply important that i feel when i read just one random person on twitter advocating for hearing everyone say what they want to be listened to by others. i'm never ever given the genuine chance (without a rigged trap setting me up after) to just explain or use my own voice because i know i'll never convince anyone that i'm worth their time when their mind is already made up about what i deserve as a consequence to whatever i said or did (no matter how major or minor), that i don't ever deserve to be forgiven months, years later so long as it fuels drama and hard feelings that no one wants to give up entertaiment in favor of a healthy conversation and/or relationship for.

i never really thought of it in the way the first two sentences of the screenshotted tweet stated: "is it unfair that certain personalities are considered bad? stated differently, is being likeable a privilege?" now i'll never not think of it that way. i'm sure there's some sort of unintentional ableism going on, but regardless, the little socmed communities we participate in seem to have this unwritten system that immediately deems head-on who is going to get off easy and who isn't, who is going to be more often targetted and who nobody wants to believe could do wrong, and it's all going to be based on natural bias. this isn't new, but i never realized until now just how much it's been affecting me individually on such a personal level all this time.

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you genuinely think my original intent was to stop you??? you’re a stubborn and defensive person. you always have been. nothing i say is gonna change that. do i want you to go back to being a decent person? yeah, sure. am i gonna try to go through with that?? no. it’s pointless and we both know it.

+ .. i’m only on anon bc i feel like it, & my account wouldn’t give u anything anyways. yes i used to be friends w u, and who i specifically am changes nothing. point is you’re a hypocritical freak who doesn’t understand they can be in the wrong. you used to talk about your self proclaimed “toxic personality” as if it was a good thing. and that’s all not to mention your “opinions” always changing to fit ur self centered agenda. you literally just openly admitted you don’t care that ur favs r racist. at least you used to PRETEND to care???

so no, i’m not trying to change you. you’re way too far gone, and that’s why people find this funny. because there’s no point in reacting any other way! have fun living off of discourse, it seems absolutely miserable, but you wouldn’t have it any other way, would you.

literally FUCK OFF MY PROFILE oh my god. i'm serious, do not send me another ask or it will get deleted. laugh about it somewhere else, not to me please.

fun fact btw just because i don't feel like hiding it - i've been this way for at least three years. i got banned from my little amino app group in 2019 for talking shit about members after being falsely given a leadership position (if you search it up on mcytdrama twt i'm sure you can find a mention of it somewhere). i was stubborn and defensive and angry then. i NEVER changed. i NEVER got better. i don't know where you get the idea that i "used to be" a decent person but you're remembering me wrong and i don't need your little benefit of the doubt. i don't have anything to lose, so yeah, i'm openly not gonna give a shit that one of my only sources of positivity anymore is considered racist by some entitled freaks. i do discourse because the anger and ranting i get out of it allows me to actually feel something as a distraction to how often i just stare at the wall and want to die. i don't plan to "get better" and i hate your mocking concern so damn bad. again, i don't need to be TOLD that i've fallen far to a point where i'm irredeemable; i know. i fucking know. fuck off and leave me alone the way i'm used to it.

all i did in that paragraph was tell you things you apparently already seem to know, so you don't need to respond anyway. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

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So I just wanna ask you if you are really against mspec lesbians? because bilesbianism was always a big part of bisexual and lesbian history I’m not trying to sound mean or anything I’m just genuinely curious about if you are against them why and hear your points only if you want a obviously/gen

alright so i was going to just delete this ask at first out of assumption that you were gonna be like "why are you against us, it's QUEER HISTORY u pos exclus >:(((" but you seem genuinely curious and it seems i've misread, so i apologize and i'm glad i didn't delete it.

but anyway, you're right!! "mspec lesbians" used to be a huge part of our shared history, that's very much true. back before lesbian separatism was active, all women who associated themselves with women were considered lesbians, because the word "lesbian" was considered an act and not an innate orientation - hence why it was much more acceptable and even encouraged for (especially straight) women to choose to distance themselves from men and "go lez" by associating themselves with women more, not even romantically. we now call this political lesbianism, which is finally recognized as being lesbophobic. bi women who dated women were considered to be lesbians in lesbian relationships. bisexuality was not seen as its own valid entity yet.

^^ which is exactly part of why it's also biphobic to be acknowledging bi women as lesbians, even if they as individuals want to be recognized as such. we have fought long and hard to gain our own spaces as our own unique orientation and community, while still engaging in solidarity with actual lesbians simultaneously. to say that we can just be lesbians if we want to undoes all of that separatism, and it brings attraction to men back into exclusive spaces that were designed to keep that out. where are they to go if we just keep following them and refusing them the right to their own personal communities just like we have? and that's what makes it lesbophobic primarily.

i think a good source for you to read into would be [this carrd], and i know carrds tend to be frowned upon in debates but this one actually has a lot of time, effort, and research put into it. it is very gentle with its wording and does not demonize inclusive people who have used harmful labels at all before, plus it even offers alternatives that cat be used!!

there's another one that's been going around for a year or two (justsaysapphic), but it's short and doesn't really say much beyond "mspec lesbians are bad and lesbophobic." i just went to go find it for reference, but it seems as though the author has deleted it and replaced it with a link that shows that they are now in favor of mspec lesbians, which goes to show that they can't say the same about the previous one in terms of valid resourcefulness. i'm disappointed and in quite a bit of disbelief tbh and kinda wish i hadn't found that out now ?? oof. i mean... i'm always open to people changing their opinions as opposed to being unbearably stubborn so i guess i can't be a hypocrite, but it was such a big deal in the lesbian community so i'd be lying if i said i wasn't shocked. and i am gonna be critical about it too, because something about it all just strikes me as really... off... about how this person went from fighting lesbophobia to "hmm, no the radinclus queers were right actually, words have no meaning anymore" since i always see inclus turn into exclus but very rarely vice versa - i just can't quite put my finger on what. but anyways, not the point here.

i hope this helps, though. i didn't feel like typing up a long organized masterpost for it right now (as you can probably tell since this is not my greatest post ever written), especially when that link explains it better, but feel free to ask if you have anymore questions and i'm sure i could either answer them myself to my best attempt or find more related posts that i've saved somewhere before in the past!! :,)

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Hey, there! I was reading through some of your blog and hit on an ask about biological sex and such. Would it be alright if we talked in a reblog chain about the six sexes recognized by Judaism and Jewish Law for the past 1,800+ years, how that intersects with sex being a social construct, and how sex in humans is bimodal instead of binary? If not, that's cool. It's just something I like sharing with people.

hmm... you'd have to educate me on it, because i've never heard of this. i'm certainly open to it if you'd like to inform me!! i think i know which post you're referencing here [X]?

as far as i currently am aware now, there are only two sexes (and any form of intersex is a variation in one way or another), whereas gender is infinite because it doesn't truly exist (whether one considers that valid in any given discourse discussion or not, no matter the morality behind it). i'm also slightly skeptical on the innate reality of theory and/or study coming from a specific culture, as that immediately gives away signs of it being a social construct (especially if it's as old as 1800+ years due to likelihood of it being outdated by now). if it can fundamentally prove with irrefutable evidence that there are four other existing sexes along with the primary two we know that are explicitly biologically different in its own separate category from male and female altogether, by all means i won't deny it.

now, that's not to say that judaism and its studies of law are invalid, fake, wrong, whatever. i'm also not jewish so i would not like to speak on it, as not only am i uneducated as i previously stated but i am also not one to purposefully overstep when it would be wrong and is truly not my place to. all i'm suggesting here is that biology/nature and culture aren't the same and can't effectively mix well, which i'm sure you'd inherently agree with on its own for as simple as that statement is.

last thing before you reblog with a reply - as much as i love debate for a passion on topics like this, i can't say i have so much confidence this time around for obvious reasons. that's not to say i'll shrug everything off and just agree with you all the time, but i really don't want to start an argument or heated debate to be taken seriously. i'd love to just have a conversation though, because i'm curious now (especially about your proposed difference between “binary” and “bimodal”)!! :)

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do you consider trans men to be female? this is a genuine yes or no question not a gotcha.

i consider them to be biologically female (AFAB) and affected by misogyny, and i think that dissenters to that are just stupid and deny the reality of our lived experiences as a chance to accuse critical thinkers of inherently being bigoted. but that's it, i'm not a TERF who doesn't consider them real men or anything. i'm genderfluid and encompass masculine identities sometimes, so it'd be hypocritical of me anyway lmao. if u saw my error at the very start due to misreading the ask no u didn't lol

tbh i think the @ur-fave-is-a-lesbian-transman blog has a really good take on it (take these posts, for example: [X] [X] [X] [X] [X] [X]). i know the mods describe themselves as radfems in the description, but they also specifically say there that they are not TERFs (after all, how could they be when their feminism includes female-born gender identities of all types?), and they seem to be incredibly respectful to trans people as trans people. i'd imagine they would be pretty well respected by everyone else too if they didn't say anything about radfems in the description or mention sexuality being based on biological sex at all, but honestly...?? it makes sense from an unbiased standpoint. these are the kinds of blogs that helped me realize i was bisexual and not a lesbian (also fun fact that i learned: the "-sexual" prefix is based on attraction to biological sex, not the act of intimacy - cool right?!). you can respect trans women as trans women but acknowledge that you are attracted to them because they are male-born first; think of it this way - if we're willing to acknowledge that trans people are biologically forever genetically born as the sex they do not identify with, why is it harmful to base inherently innate sexuality off of that as well? it doesn't mean we disrespect trans men as men, trans women as women, or nonbinary people as nonbinary people, just the same way acknowledging their AGAB means nothing but a necessary indicator in the conversation if such clarification is needed. these things can coexist. and if that possibility hurts anyone's ego or causes them to accuse thinkers like this of sparking unforgivable body dysphoria... well... i'm not sure how to help. unfortunately the world was not made for us and our biology certainly wasn't designed to make transition and accuracy easy for us either, and in reality dysphoria is just a bitch because it's so realistically difficult to satisfy as a social construct. i have respect for those of us in the trans/nb who can accept that or at least don't completely close themselves off to the suggestion, even though it seems we're rare and far & few between.

i won't get into it much more (and also probably won't put frequent tags under this post) because i'm truly afraid of the woke thought police or whatever screaming "TERF!!! BLOCKLIST!!! GO TO HELL!!!" at me even though nothing i said was trans-exclusive - quite the opposite, actually. in addition to that, i'm trans!! i use they/she/he pronouns and sometimes neopronouns for the fun of it too!! so i apologize if anything i said was offensive but unless i get dogpiled and harassed i won't be taking this post down as i see nothing wrong with it.

i hope this answered your question anon, even though i went overboard and dumped much more info on you than you probably asked for. :,)

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did you fall down the stairs or are you really that ignorant. just cause you like the cc and got their youtooz or whatever don't mean you ain't being disrespectful :/

how did you miss my entire point?? i wrote an entire paragraph in that response explaining how disagreement on discourse stances can be respectful. i wrote an entire paragraph stating how the better of us still have the bare minimum basic respect for people who identify as pan instead of bi. i know the incredibly new and modern idea of respectful disagreement and/or disapproval might absolutely blow your mind but until you actually acknowledge what i said as i said it, you're gonna make me impatient. and also - i'd consider myself PLENTY respectful, considering how little most of the fandom seems to regard any given streamer's boundaries. besides, as i said in the tags, minx is the take-no-shit type. i think she can handle a little criticism that she'll never see, especially considering none of it is personal in any way at all.