Ive been seeing a lot of therapists and doctors as I prepare to separate from the military (ugh, finallyyyyy) and now that Im out as trans since its on all my medical stuff, I keep getting the pronouns question and Im so happy you wrote Min to say "Just dont do anything to make people look twice at me" Because thats my go-to line. I still look obviously male but I like 'she' but I dont want people to wonder whats going on when people she me in public lol So thank you :]]]
Congratulations on escaping the army! XD
You’re welcome re: Under My Skin, Flesh & Blood and Min! I deliberately didn’t make Min a ‘they’ because I rarely see books about non-binary people that discuss the fact that ‘they’ doesn’t work for everyone. Pronouns are really hard when you’re not binary and transitioning to another binary gender (or when you don’t pass and/or aren’t out to everyone!). I want to explore the discomfort and confusion of not fitting perfectly into any gender box, including the ‘they’ box.
I’m glad I’m managed to also give people tools for how to manage their own genders if they find themselves in a similar situation to Min! :D
Good luck, and I love hearing happy parts of transition stories!