#private keep out

[fever4theflavor69]

Friends and followers Please read..

The events of this morning prompted this post.

This might help to clarify some things about me.

Lots of you ask for my other socials. My phone number. Or to chat on things like WhatsApp and telegram.

Almost 5 years ago. I was still reeling from the death of my husband. I made a friend. A male friend on facebook. He was still sad from the loss of his wife. We met in a support group for grieving spouses. He lived 600 miles away. He was very supportive and helpful and friendly. He eventually expressed his affection for me, but I told him that I was nowhere near ready to date and the death of my husband would take a long time for me to get over. He said he was cool with that. We became really good friends and I allowed him to add me on Snapchat.

At one point, I posted a picture to my snap in front of a restaurant in the town I lived in. He found out where that restaurant was, and what town I lived in. And then did snooping to find out my home address.

He showed up at my front door. With flowers and expected to sweep me off my feet. He professed his undying love for me, and asked to marry me. Mind you my husband had only been passed for like five months at this point.

I flipped out, like bad. I was so angry that he violated my trust. I was scared and feared for my daughter. I told him to leave before I called the cops.

15 minutes later my phone rings. My cell phone. I don't know how he got the number but he called and told me that he was going to do unspeakable things to myself AND my daughter.

Immediately i called the police. Gave them his info, name etc. they tracked him down and he was arrested and in the end, ONLY given two years probation. As he left the courthouse, he smiled at me and tapped on his watch as if to say... "You just wait... It's coming".

Every year I renew the restraining order on him.

I have changed my phone number. I had to quickly stage and sell the home where I was happy, and wanted to live with the memories of my deceased husband. I was forced to move back home with my parents until I found and moved to a new home. I had to uproot my daughter. It was terrible.

But every day I fear he is going to find me. And my daughter. I look over my shoulder ALL day EVERY day.

So for all of you that wonder why I won't share my socials, my pics, or my phone number, or give certain details about where I live...

This is why.

Fever

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Private Keep Out

Barry Cain

Queen’s Brian May likes to keep his personal life to himself. Here, he talks to Barry Cain about these problems

Regal rocker Brian May hates being asked about his private life. The dazzling guitarist from Queen, guards his behind the scenes secrets like the crown jewels.

“I need periods when I can get away on my own and think my own thoughts without anyone looking at me. That way I become a product of what I think I am and not how other people see me.

“In the ‘showbiz’ approach to life you are always aware of what you are doing. Even combing your hair becomes a big planned event. All that is destructive to the music.

“But when I’m performing I’m giving myself to the public. In that capacity I belong to them and only to them. But if that carried on after I would cease to exist as a human being. I would be worthless. Dwindle to nothing. I could say this in so many different ways. There is a strain, a physical strain of being on show 24 hours a day.

“Everything would disappear on the end. It’s happened so many times before. Marilyn Monroe and Jimi Hendrix are just two examples - extreme cases maybe, but very frightening nevertheless. Keeping my private life to myself keeps me going as an artist.”

And his attitude seems to be paying off. Brian turned up for Mayday looking immaculate in a black velvet suit, white shirt and tie. He was sporting a closely cropped beard and looked ridiculously healthy.

He fondled his black curly locks as he spoke. He carefully rummaged over each question before answering. Articulate he is.

Kid gloves with the new album. “We’re still putting the finishing touches to it … but it should be out next month. A track from the album, which will be called ‘A Day At The Races’, is shortly being put out as a single.

“Although the music is in the same style as ‘Night At The Opera’ we are breaking new ground, going in new directions. You couldn’t describe ‘Races’ as a follow up with the connotations that phrase involves.”

‘A Night At The Opera’ and a ‘Day At The Races’ are the titles of two Marx Brothers films. What next, Animal Crackers? Why the link?

“It was deliberate. We all admire the Marx Brothers and while we were out in the States we met Groucho. He said he liked ‘The Opera’ album and when we told him the title of the new one he flipped. ‘The Opera’ movie was the big, lavish one in the Marx Brothers’ career. So it was with us and ‘The Opera’ album.”

The Stateside tour really crowned Queen’s career to date and placed them firmly on the throne of success.

“Well, it’s finally really happening for us over there. We really reached towards our peak with ‘The Opera’ and it was great to see it break into the US charts. It’s always hard to get accepted over there - especially on the West Coast. But we were having sell outs everywhere. There’s a different kind of response between British and American audiences.

“Here the fans are more reserved until they have reached a point where they can explode. In the States they are ready to explode at the beginning. They will give you anything you want … once you gain their favour.”

What did Brian think of that new phenomenon, the well worn punk rock which seems to be a total antithesis to everything Queen represent?

“The same applies in punk rock as with anything else,” he said. “It’s a generic name that doesn’t really mean anything. The best will survive, the worst disappear. Anything new is a good thing and some of the punk bands have really got something.

“It’s very natural for the kids to go for punk. Those bands, despite feelings in some quarters, want to give as much as possible to their audience. And so should any artist. It doesn’t matter what you play or whether you spend lots of money on lights and sound.

“You are playing to reach people, to generate magic. There are going to be more guitarists, more musicians who may start off as being something outside the whole music scene. They may seem like they have some new, eternal truth. But it still all comes down to playing to the people.

“You might use a million megaton bomb in your stage act. Okay. But the secret is how you use it. That’s what counts, how you actually present what you’ve got.

“Rock means many things to many people. It can be shocking, or it can be something out of a Busby Berkeley setting. And nobody wants to see you give a half hearted performance. You have to use everything within your range to give the people what they want.”

Image seems to play a very important part in Queen’s make-up.

“Sure we have this very flamboyant image. But if I thought I was just made up of a lot of glitter and glamour then I would give the whole thing up. I think our music is good. I think our songs are good. I think Queen are a good band.

“If I didn’t - what would be the point of going on?”

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Edward Woodward as David Callan.