#pwbpd

[caedisinian]

　i ❜ ll make you smile during my performance　~　~

　　love—hate prone

　a x-prone (link) term　…

for when one is prone to feeling both love and hate at the same time ,

　　colors taken from this flag (link)

　　and this flag (link)

　　made with pwBPD and such in mind

　　but is not exclusive

　　our special guests　~　~　 @radiomogai　 @manifoldgai　 @friend-device

　　bonus　 @clownssick　 @x-prone

　self - indulgent term

[unikittyeingeweide]

i want them romantically, but also platonically, but not queerplatonically or platonically, but also i love being qpp, but also no i dont i want them romantically, but also i’d love being friends, but also

i just want them, romantically more than anything but like also no ykwim

[narcborderline]

A flag for people who have both narcissistic and borderline personality disorder! This is the flag we will be using on our blog. This flag combines the NPD flag (link) with this BPD flag (link). The daffodil is sourced from here (link).

[singer-savior]

having personality disorders isnt for the weak which is funny because it is in fact the personality disorders making me weak

[cowboyposer]

yo its been a year since that one post but do you still think cluster b folks who were abused themselves are still inevitable abusers? 👀 spill the T

I don't think anyone's inherently an abuser, I just think they're a lot more prone to it. I don't want to discourage people from seeking help with that kind of thinking, but I also don't like that saying your opinion effects whether or not someone gets help (people claim this idea makes people continue being bad people), people should want to get help regardless of what others think, just to better themselves.

I say they're more prone because every single person with BPD who's vocal about it *that I've seen* shows the same exact guilt tripping, victim mentality, and blaming behaviors, the same ones my abuser has. I see they frequently claim that the people they hurt "didn't set boundaries," but there's no setting boundaries if these people ignore them anyways. I also notice they cannot seem to take any accountability.

What's most interesting to me is that a lot of bpd symptoms can be summed up as "generally being an asshole." If people with these behaviors didn't have a diagnosed disorder, we would simply assume that they're abusive bad people. Just because they have a diagnosis, their behavior is passed off as "mental illness" instead of maybe, just maybe, this person is actually immoral.

This is a huge part for me, because this is why my abuser was let go by the justice system. She was violent towards both me and my father, but the judge passed her off as a "struggling mother who's overworked with mental illness." Keep in mind all she did was sleep all day, was unemployed, screamed, violently attacked and tried to kill, and was disrespectful to people my entire life.

When my abuser finally got help per the court, all that happened was she got better at masking. She may not have hit or attempted to kill people anymore, but she spoke degradingly about others in a way that shows she had no change in her mindset: she was still the victim, and everyone else was evil, even if she was the one who terrorized them

She never truly got better, and ultimately I ended up moving out when she waved a knife at me and said she wished she murdered me as a child.

Obviously this is over generalization and only what I've seen, and I don't think all people with BPD are inherently bad or something. It's just I'm not willing to become a victim again, and I'm not interested in taking that risk of having close relationships with them.

Sorry this was a big rant about my experiences, I feel this is the only way to get my side of it across, obviously my abuser isn't every single person who has BPD. But it is really exhausting when you mention that your abuser has BPD, everyone comes screaming saying '"but not every person with BPD," it's like saying "not all men."

Sorry this is so disorganized, but to tack on to the people with BPD being abused themselves, that doesn't stop someone from becoming an abuser. My abuser went through traumatic experiences, but the level of cognitive dissonance she had allowed her to be so much worse to me. She literally could not comprehend that she was repeating the abuse cycle. So yes, being a victim previously does not change a single thing about whether or not someone will go on to be abusive. Anything is possible if you have enough cognitive dissonance I guess 😭😭

[faggot-tyler-joseph]

maybe theres something im missing but as a pwPDs i dont really understand the flags that are flags for being someones favorite/depended/attention/etc person?

maybe i just dont get it but it almost feels ableist or egotistical in a way- and not only that but it also feels like a good way to target the pwPD that youre their special person for?

and is it supposed to be self-declared? or is it like a “gifted” flag? idk i dont get it.

[thevirgodoll]

a lot of people have destroyed others by saying “I love you” but throwing them away in the trash later when communication is off. why say “I love you” if you’re going to lose patience and kindness later? why say “I love you” if you can’t have perspective for your partner’s pain, not just yours? why say “I love you” if you’re going to devalue and discard?

sometimes, people idealize us and love who they create us to be… and never get to know who we really are. they get upset when we don’t fit their projections. they think feedback means you love them less. they think days YOU are struggling is hatred. they think their lashings for going outside of the “rules” is love. they cast fear and doubts on us because they don’t even love themselves enough yet to believe you love them.

people are doing things in their best interest and should just admit it. they say they love you to get something from you. they don’t even know what “love” is. they don’t even understand the concept. when they have it they destroy it with their bare hands. but they would never want anyone to do the same.

I am tired of everyone using “love” so loosely when the truth is that they love the future ahead and can’t even have patience learning who we are now. genuinely would rather die than ever hear it again fr

[gay-killer-whalien]

me and my therapist decided I should start using positive affirmations but I'm emo so I made this triple level of irony meme to do positive affirmations in my style