#qprthoughts

[qprstories]

People often define QPRs as some kind of "halfway point" between friendship and romance, but I prefer to think of it as more of a "secret third thing" that can have characteristics of platonic and romantic relationships, but can also be totally unique. It gives more room for freedom and flexibility, which is what QPRs are meant for. They're not meant to be the middle point between two binary options. They are an entirely different category all of their own.

Think of it like how we see nonbinary genders. Most of us recognize that nonbinary doesn't mean a halfway point between male and female, but an entirely distinct set of genders that may share characteristics of male and female genders, but also may not. This is what QPRs are (supposed) to be like, not something defined as a middle point in an arbitrary binary.

[qprstories]

Hey guys! So, I wrote a poem a while back that I think fits the theme of this blog :). It's called (queerplatonically) in love

(its uh, under the cut)

hey

i’ve done some thinking

and i think

i’m in love with you

love is a strange thing to be in

vast and unknowing, 

stretching beyond the carpets of our imagination

a neverending blanket of stars

(some bright, some dim) 

we draw lines between and mark  

to make our way in the world 

love is a thing to be studied

charted

mapped

scribbled in never-ending pages and woven with endless thread

a tapestry of stars

and freckles

of grilled cheese sandwiches and little moments

of peppermint ice cream and all the things left unsaid

i love you 

i want to map it

if the skies of the world above us is love

than i suppose i’m an astronomer 

deciphering it

writing it down

making sense of something i can’t even touch 

connecting snippets that aren’t even mine

love, you see, i weave it

i take those pieces and weave them together on my own 

and hope it will be enough 

is it enough? 

is it alright? 

i don’t know

i don’t know 

because one day 

the stars came down and said 

you are not like us, dear child 

the warmth we have will never touch your skin 

fill your heart 

you must make your own light, little one 

for the kind we make is not for you 

and then they left

and now i’m here

under their sky 

trying to make sense of it 

wondering if i’ll feel their light someday 

wondering if what i’ll make will ever be enough 

can i make it? 

can i make something? 

can it be enough? 

will it ever be enough?

enough

enough? 

enough? 

sometimes

i set my quilts aside 

and i wonder

is this real?

do i want this? 

do i want this, i wonder

to be blessed by the light the stars told me i could never have

to feel the things i could never feel 

to fill my heart the way it can never be filled

or is it just a dream, a fantasy?

what does that light even feel like? 

would i recognize it, one day

if it shone down upon me with all its strength

would i know it? would i feel it? would i want it? 

is it maybe

perhaps

maybe

what i feel for you? 

i’ve done some thinking

and i think i’m in love in with you

when we’re texting i smile so much my mouth hurts

my foot taps

i spin around in my chair

it makes me giddy, i think

like butterflies 

(that’s what they always say love is like) 

i want to map it 

i want to decipher it 

i want to decode it

i want to know if it’s the kind the stars told me i would never have 

i want to know if it’s real

i want to know what it means

but

maybe i don’t have to 

maybe i’ve made my own light

somehow

maybe it’s not from the stars or anywhere else

maybe it means only what it means to me

maybe i just love you

and that is enough of that

[qprstories]

My idea of a qpr is that I'll have friends I live with and we cuddle sometimes. Or maybe I'm in a polyam relationship but I'm there for the emotional attachment and physical affection rather than anything specifically romantic or sexual. There's not really a difference between how I relate to a best friend and how I relate to a qpp, but in my qpr there would be an understanding that we're committed to each other in some way and I'm not going to be forgotten once they get a romantic partner. And I dream that I'll be able to call future queerplatonic partners my family because the idea of making a family without a romantic or sexual requirement is important to me.

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[qprstories]

I think AJR said it best when i was starting to catch feelings from my (now partner)

"I hold you I hold you closer then I ever knew I could do But I'm confused I thought I'd recognize when love was true But I'm confused

Am I ready for love? Or maybe just a best friend Should there be a difference Do you have instructions? Maybe I'm stuck on what I see on TV I grew up on Disney But this don't feel like Disney

You say I turned out fine I think I'm still turning out"

We still are working out some details but honestly it's okay, i cant imagine my future without them and i will do everything in my power to be the best version of myself for them.

Romantic, Platonic or some borderline it really doesn't matter.. as long as they know i care and i feel my best when i'm with them.. that's all i'll ever need from this world

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[qprstories]

When you meet up with your qpp(s), what do you call it?

A date

A hang out/any other platonic term

Something else

I don't have a qpp :( / See results

Voting ended onJul 23, 2023