Anon Advice Asks - June 8
unnecessary crush anon, qualms anon (new), @teasiswriter , grounded anon, pg anon
unnecessary crush anon
unnecessary crush anon (although this is nothing related to crushes)
umm...
so recently, i took a type of 'career counseling' because im lost in life.
and i consider myself to be good in english and - even though im fucking drowning in the crossroads of the path of my future, i still considered myself to be taking something related to english - preferably journalism or smt
but this GUY just said 'with the rise of ai, english is no longer a subject, ai will remove all use of people writing creativley, there is no scope of english writing creativily, yada yada yada
and worse - this GUY just suggested i go towards corporate (which i HATE)
now, to be fair, he also said that if i choose a few things or the other, i still will be able to do journalism or whatever, but still, CORPORATE? HELL NAH
idk, im just fuming as to how this GUY just destroyed like the one thing im absolutely sure im good at.
like
with all he's going with 'your academics' 'your extracurriculars' its really not that impressive, considering that i had little to no hand in my wins, and even if i did, the wins were little
idk
ive just...
Hi!
That's like...infuriating. Especially since like...AI can't be creative. That's the whole point.
Honestly, I'm not a career counselor and idk what country you live in so idk how much my advice could help but I think if you want to go into a field that involves writing (like journalism, etc) then the best thing to do is to YES still go for that field, but also minor in something that can get you a job right away. Sometimes things like being a journalist involve both time and luck, so having something to do while you work towards your goal is a good idea. So like major in journalism, but minor in editing or something. That way you can get an editing job while you work towards becoming a journalist after school.
But don't give up on your dreams! I believe in you!
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qualms anon
hey Cas
i really don’t know how to explain this situation without sounding like a horrible person, but i think i need to break up with my partner. i don’t know how to because i genuinely do love him a lot, it’s just. for whatever reason I don’t see it lasting. it might js be my attachment style or my trauma promoting me to run away, or maybe i don’t actually like men because he’s really the only man i’ve ever had a crush on. i’m js so confused and it feels like im leading him on and he is so so perfect and he deserves someone who isn’t having constant qualms about whether or not we should even be together
Hi!
I don't think you're a horrible person at all for this. You can't control your feelings! I think you have two healthy options here: either talk with your partner about how you're feeling and still try to make it work if that's what you both want, or talk with your partner about how you're feeling, and break up. But hiding your feelings is the only thing that WOULD be bad, because its not being honest and will result in more hurt in the long run.
A good relationship requires communication, even when it's scary <3
Keep me updated!
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@teasiswriter
Hi Cas
I’m sorry for another downer of an ask but
I’m really really disappointed in myself. I just want to be employed so badly and I just feel like I’m not good enough
I applied to so many places, and I’ve looked through like 70 jobs and almost all them say I’m too young. Is it my fault? There are jobs that I simply didn’t want because they went against who I am and what I could tolerate doing as a job (like being a member of a teenage “TikTok hype house” or an organization my mom suggested where people learn about their blackness, and I didn’t want to because the way my parents force their ideas of blackness usually clashes with me as a person (how, it’s funny and normal for black kids to be yelled at and dismissed by their parents, or how everything but nothing is about race all the time) but now I feel guilty for saying no.
Why are ten different places refusing to tell me yes or no? Why are some jobs insistent on making the requirement be so high when the very fact they can work with any minors means they can lower it to my age?
And it’s the only thing my grandparents and parents talk about. It’s not fair. Why won’t anyone give me a straight answer? I can do what’s required, really I can! I can be a good worker and balance everything, so why is everyone making it so difficult?
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Please I just want someone to hire me, so I can be out of the house and be myself.
I hate everything and I want to cry
I’m really sorry
Hi!
I promise, it's NOT you. The job market is AWFUL.
I think I remember you saying this is your first job, right? Have you tried looking into the more...I don't want to say boring, but..boring jobs? Fast food restaurants, gas stations, grocery stores, clothing stores, things like that? I know those aren't the ideal, but sometimes doing those things will help you get the experience other, better, places are looking for.
I'm so sorry this is weighing so heavily on you <3 Like I said, it's NOT you. It sucks that the world is like this. I promise, you WILL find something. Oh also! Ask your school and your local library! Sometimes places who need people to work will tell schools and libraries to look out for kids who want jobs.
Good luck! <3
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grounded anon
Hello
It is me once more
So basically, my step uncle died
The thing is, I didn't know him.
Never met him or heard him.or called him or was told about his personality
Never even saw a picture
So when my mom told me the news I stayed silent for a bit. before saying "im sorry, that's horrible"
She then called me selfish, saying I only cared about me
She said my dad told her I apparently don't give a shit about her
She said other stuff but its not important
The only thing keeping me from doing something drastic is my bsf. You know the one. We've been texting over Tumblr dms.
No, to answer your question, I do not habe any trusted adults. The only adults I have think im selfish and a liar and a manipulator.
I had to miss my one guaranteed chance of seeing my friend at art camp because of this
Also the religious camp isn't s conformimg one
I've went before, so I know what to expect
Im so tired of being at this stupid house
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-grounded anon
Wow, okay. I feel like I would have reacted the same way you did. Like what else can you say? It's not like you threw a party lol.
You clearly are not selfish. I'm sorry your parents are saying that. It's like...there's not any perfect way to respond to death but I feel like you did a good job, especially since you're just a kid!
I'm glad you have a supportive friend, at least. That's so important <3 Whether or not you see them, you know they're there, which MATTERS.
I'm sending you so much love!
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pg anon
C - please remember that you're not responsible for anyone's life. if you aren't able to respond (because you're asleep or you just mentally can't) that's NOT on you. You're also well within your rights to call an adult or the police if someone is telling you these things. it's a safety issue, you know?
Schools - I forget if I've asked this but does your school have guidance counselors? It's like...their job to help you figure out this stuff, so you should make them do their job. Ask them questions about the schools you want to go to and what you need to do, you know?
identity- it's OKAY to struggle with this stuff, especially when you're young. I think, like you said, you just have to decide what to do about it. like you have a bf, does your struggles affect your relationship? if not, then take your time figuring it out! you have your whole life to figure that stuff out, you know? You don't owe anyone, not even yourself, a label.
online friends- is there a way to like...stay out of it? still be friends with both people? it sounds like you're not directly involved so if I were you id stay out of it as much as possible. be friends with the people YOU like and relate to, and fuck everyone else's opinions, you know? I know its easier said than done, but in the long run, it's worth it.
friendship in general- I'm so sorry </3 I wish I could say more to make you feel better but I hope you know I'm here for you to vent any time. Also, happy belated birthday <3 the blender sounds cool!
sending love!