i thought i was aro for a while but there's this g i r l and she's so pretty and i love her and i pretty much fit all the symptoms of a crush but she's been my only ever crush ever and i can't see it happening again to anyone else so does that fit the category of greyromantic or am i allo (im not even 14 btw i turn 14 in a couple days so my youth could be a factor and maybe i just was young before)
I can’t tell you what your orientation is, because the only person who can determine that is you. That said, here’re some things that might help.
Many aros (myself included) used to mistake non-romantic attraction (most often platonic attraction) as romantic attraction. If you think that’s possible, this ask might help you to figure things out some. But let’s say that you really are romantically attracted to this girl. I’m not grayromantic so I can’t speak directly to grayromantic experiences, but it certainly sounds to me like you might be grayromantic. Grayromantic can be used as a specific label, but it can also be used as an umbrella label that encompasses other terms like demiromantic, frayromantic, lithromantic, recipromantic, and more; you can look into other labels, but you don’t have to. (And you can use multiple labels at the same time, like calling yourself lithromantic, greyromantic, and aromantic.)
With regards to age, I don’t think you’re too young to know your orientation, for a couple of reasons. First, no one would tell a straight person that they’re too young to know they’re straight, so saying that to someone else because they’re not straight is a double standard. Second, people seem to first start experiencing sexual attraction when they’re about 10, and judging by the informal anecdotes of alloros, romantic attraction follows a similar pattern. Thus, I think it’s reasonable to say that most people your age have already experienced romantic attraction. Third, you can actually do your own comparison between your experiences and those of your peers. If you know people your age are experiencing romantic attraction (especially if they seem to be experiencing it more intensely, more frequently, and/or to more people than you) in a way that doesn’t match your experiences, that can suggest that you’re grayromantic.
Finally, I don’t think that your age should hold you back from using terms that resonate with you, even if they might not be the terms you use forever. I used to think I was heteroromantic (back when I still thought I was cis). Then I thought I was demiromantic, then either quoiromantic or platoniromantic, and then I settled on aromantic. Aside from aromantic, I don’t use any of those labels anymore, because they aren’t right for me anymore, but there was a time when they really were the best label for me. I knew “aromantic” was a term and could have used it from the start, but I genuinely didn’t think I was aro, so it wouldn’t have been helpful. So, if you start calling yourself greyromantic, is there a change you’ll stop at some point? Sure, but there’s also a chance you’ll stick with that label for a long time (maybe even forever), and if you do switch to a different label, there’s nothing wrong with that. Sometimes, moving between different labels is part of the questioning experience, and that’s okay.
Hope that helps, as always feel free to ask for clarification/any follow up questions.