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[theinfamousquinn]

Guy I'm Vaguely Interested In: I love you.

Me: Thanks.

[gandgperspective-blog]

Is it too forward and intimidating to just tell a person you like them?

Hey! Thanks for writing in.

It isn’t necessarily too forward and intimidating, but you definitely don’t want to drop a bomb on them by just saying, “Hey, I like you,” out of the blue. Work it into the conversation if you’re talking face to face, or add it on to the end of a sentence if it’s over text or chat. You want to get your point across, so make sure it isn’t caught in the breeze.

However, if you think this person likes you back, it isn’t too forward. They might be wondering if or hoping you like them, so it would be a relief to know that you do.

- Quinn Darrow

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Violin Adventures (Update 1)

So I've been playing violin for a total of seven days now. It's fantastic. I love it. My friend Charlie, who inspired me to play violin (or at least take action, since I've wanted to play my whole life but my parents thought I'd never actually practice), just won our high school's talent show and took first place, with a prize of $300. He's magnificent and has been playing for six years now.

The violin is a lot different than the piano in a lot of different aspects. I've played the piano for four years now. The main difference between the two is that on a violin, you have to play by ear, whereas on piano you plunk a key and it's more or less the exact note you're looking for. Since I played piano for quite a while before transitioning to violin, I think I have the advantage of having heard pitch perfect notes for so long (I played an electric piano, so it was never out of tune).

But the one thing I didn't really anticipate is the arm pains. I've got the arms and legs of noodles of spaghetti (although I've been complimented on my legs several times, so I suppose they're not so bad) and don't have much muscle tone to speak of. Hidden benefit of playing violin: buff arms.

Within that seven days, I'm proud to say that I've practiced every single day. It's a big accomplishment, because when I learned piano, I rarely took lessons (I think I had a total of four? Maybe five) and it took a lot of effort to actually sit down on that really uncomfortable bench and practice for more than ten minutes. But with violin I love practicing. It pains me to stop. Except recently with the sore arms, it pains me to go on as well, haha. I guess it's because I started violin with formal training as opposed to just sitting down and playing like I did with piano.

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Girl Perspective: Can Two Completely Different Kinds of People Be Together?

This is a question that comes up a lot in high school and college. And heck, throughout adulthood too. There's no definite answer, but here's something close:

Yes. People with differing personalities can be together happily. But you both have to put in an equal amount of effort to make the relationship work. If one side isn't as devoted to the other, it's not going to work. It doesn't work that way in any relationship.

What happens a lot is that an introvert and extrovert get together and it seems like the extrovert has higher expectations. The introvert tries to keep up with these expectations, but it's harder for them to come out of their comfort zone than the extrovert. Then, the extrovert starts getting frustrated and starts to doubt their significant other's commitment in the relationship, while the introvert actually is committed, they just don't show it the way the extrovert does.

Extroverts are very physical and loving. They love PDA and words of affection. Introverts don't always show it, but they can love as much, if not more, as their extrovert counterparts. After the extrovert starts thinking that their SO doesn't love/care for them very much, the extrovert start making it seem like they're not going to wait around for the introvert and will try to make them jealous. But not malicious jealousy, just a tiny bit to make their lone wolf know that they're going to slip out of their paws if they don't take action.

If you, the extrovert, start doing this, you need to fix things quickly. Communicate with your significant other and let them know where you're at. You both need to come out of your comfort zone and shell to make each other happy. It is entirely possible for things to work, but not if you don't know each other's expectations. And if the introvert says they don't have expectations, or the other way around, that's complete BS. There are no relationships without expectations.

Have a situation where you don't know what to do? Feel free to ask us anything!

- Quinn Darrow

[theinfamousquinn]

So Yesterday...

We finally got a covered litter box. I love my cat and all, but her bathroom habits were out of control. As in, she seems to love to throw the excess cat litter everywhere. And I mean EVERYWHERE. For some reason, it even gets in the sink.

Enter the monstrosity we bought. It's quite quaint, a very aesthetic, round, standard cat-plastic blue. It has a door just wide enough for her strangely round belly, which makes us think she's always pregnant (she's spayed, don't worry). It even comes with an air filter, which is pretty high technology for a litter box.

So I set it up this morning, and I let her know it's there by pointing at it (she's incredibly intelligent, having grown up with my Asian parents). She promptly investigates it by sniffing it and whatnot. Then she hops in and does her business. Her apparent reaction to her experience in the loo made for cat gods was to jump out and SPRINT out the door, around the corner, up the stairs, and into the media room.

Cat problems.

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April Fool's Day

You know what day is coming up?? April Fool's Day! Which means that you can ask out anyone (and I mean anyone) without fear of the humiliation of rejection. You know why? Because for all they know, you could be kidding. And maybe you were. If they say yes and they mean it, you've got a date!

[theinfamousquinn]

Something I've Noticed #3

If someone asks you, "So why did you and [insert name] break up?", the question generally has to do with genuine curiosity and almost never has something to do with the person asking shipping you and the person you broke up with. Even if that person is the girlfriend of your ex's brother.

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Guy Perspective: Being Toyed With

Toying with a guy's emotions is probably the worst choice that a girl can make. It doesn't keep a guy waiting around, and it's not healthy if you plan on being in a relationship with him. The problem mainly comes with girls not realizing they are toying with a guy's feelings. A lot of the time this occurs when girls say things that they don't really mean: "I want to be with you," "I really like you, but I don't feel ready for a relationship," and various things of that sort. As much as it may seem like this behavior would make a guy feel better, it doesn't. It makes us feel horrible. Actions speak louder than words. If you like a guy, but you don't feel ready for a relationship with him for any reason at all (whether it's because you're already in a relationship, or it's because you don't know if a relationship between the two of you would work out, or if it's even because you don't feel like you like him enough to get into a relationship with him), do not tell him that you like him. In fact, it would be less hurtful to tell him that you don't like him than to tell him that you do like him but you don't want to date him. 

Guys do not like wanting what they can't have, so if you really care about a guy, you'll give him a straight "yes, I want to be with you," or "no, I do not want to be with you." 

If you give him a straight no, it'll hurt less than if you give him a half-hearted no.

-Joseph Razzleflamm