I can't believe I didn't notice this parallel earlier, because I have thought about how even though Dispatch seems like more affectionate towards Rabbit, in reality Toad is closer to him despite the animosity, because he actually engages in these deep conversations Rabbit wants to have. (Plus the distinction that they're co-workers rather than Dispatch, being like their management)
Both of these questions are asking for vulnerability and Toad gives it to Rabbit. Now, maybe take it with a grain of salt because "exactly, I didn't do anything" is complete bullshit. But you do understand better why Rabbit was blindsided.
I'm reminded of when Kyle Prue said that in episode 3, when Rabbit is talking to Maxine, that's the first time he's opened up in a while. But what about someone else opening up to him? I mean he gets degrees of that with the clients, his job is to do embarrassing or illegal things for them, but it's always begrudging and he only knows what he has to know. As we see throughout the series, Dispatch isn't receptive to his questions either (Even his last one, I don't buy that Tommy is his real name).
Then Toad comes along offering him what he's been asking for this whole time, and this conversation with Toad gives Rabbit hope, maybe they could be friends, less lonely together, and then...