#radical femininity

[digitalblutbad]

How Christianity helped me in my femininity journey:

It brought serenity, peace and softness into my heart.

It made me accept myself more and elevated my self esteem, because God created me in His image and loves me.

It motivated me to improve my good personality traits, making me want to be more kind, compassionate, attentive, nurturing, instead of always looking for approval of others, solely based on superfluous things (physical appearance for example).

It made me less competitive with other women, because I know my worth and the worth of others.

It made me less anxious, because I know God is leading my life and He’s my provider.

It made me aware of the type of man, who is going to be a good father for our children and a good husband for me.

It made me less bitter and more joyful, because God helped me to forgive the people who hurt me in the past, healing myself in the process.

It made me respect my body and boundaries, even if people criticize me calling me “old fashioned”, “outdated”, “prude”, “boring”.

It lightened inside me the wish of being a mother of many, of having a lovely and big family, because this is the only richness I want to accumulate on this earth.

It made me less materialistic. It made me realize “famous” brands means nothing, when you can have something practical, good and affordable for much more less money.

Disclaimer: I’m not saying only Christian women can have or develop those traits, but I’m saying our connection with God can absolutely help ourselves as women as it has helped me greatly.

[digitalblutbad]

I find it so funny when some women ask to stay at home moms, if they are depressed, “bored” or isolated with their routine... Then I ask myself, are 30 years old women, who works at a 9 to 5 job happier overall? More proud of themselves? More accomplished, because they can buy cheap makeup and fast fashion clothes made of plastic? Or taking an example of my roommate, who can’t sleep and who constantly feels humiliated in her research team and is even losing her hair due to stress while trying to get a master degree? Or when my cousin was humiliated by her supervisor at her job, because she was sick due to her PMS and her boss (a woman) said “stop being sensitive, I don’t have PMS, and I don’t believe it’s true.” Are they exceptions in working women force? Well... But I think that being a SAHM is really the WAY for developing depression and feelings of isolation... What’s a community, where they can take part of? What’s a Church, right? What does it means to take care of your children and feel good and safe at your home while doing it? What are hobbies? Do women still cook and take pleasure in that? I thought everyone just called the food delivery... right... What does it mean to feel nice while serving your husband instead of an abusive boss who you can’t get rid of, because you need a job to EAT, hanging in a toxic relationship anyways. But I guess, that SAHM have more innumerable problems to lead them to depression than career women...

[digitalblutbad]

There was a girl on instagram complaining that "feminine women don't argue, don't discuss politics". Imagine you having such a brain damage that you think "being feminine" is a whole personality instead of one single trait, instead of an energy. Just because she's a fucking boring... woman, doesn't mean all the women out there, who are also feminine, must be. I hate feminism, especially the modern one, but this "radical femininity" bullshit is so toxic as the radical feminism. Having passions, having desires, having ambitions aren't incompatible with being feminine. Being submissive doesnt mean you MUST stay silence the whole day and then when your husband comes at the evening, you are just able to talk about the cookies you made because you are afraid you are being annoying. You are already annoying, for god's sake.

[digitalblutbad]

50/50 men are so gross like realistically bearing and raising several children, perhaps homeschooling, maybe even having a farm of sorts aka animals to care for, on top of doing (until children are of age) all of the housework like cleaning, planning and cooking most of the meals for your family, and finding the time to stay fit AND take time to spend with your husband is a huge commitment and then they want you to work full time too lol... its not the vibe

You have to understand a few factors: they were conditioned by society since they were little that, that how things should go… Why? Because women also keep up with this bs (including their mothers). If you’re a feminine woman, the guy (even if he’s brainwashed) he will feel more inclined towards protecting and providing for you etc than when you’re aggressive, nagging or competitive with him. Men don’t see “bro” behaving-girls as something to be protected, or those who think and want to prove they can do it all without any help.

I can’t do it all, I don’t want to do it all, I don’t want to prove I can do it all and especially I don’t BASE my worth in doing it all… I changed my mind thinking that asking men favors is a weakness of mine because I can’t do it, no, it’s because men love to feel useful (and if they don’t, are they even men?).

The whole point is people are delusional and they are selfish and they will always want the best part for themselves… We, as women we have to say no or yes, but you can just do that if you know yourself and your needs. Does your bf wants you to work after marriage? Yes? Do you want it? No. Dump him. Or marry him and stay frustrated and live a terrible marriage.

During the dating stage you can see clearly if he’s a provider or not, especially after six months or so, when he stop trying to “seduce” you and is more comfortable… Now you will see if his rhythm is the same as he was showing you, if he stills holds the same vision of being a provider or not.

To summarize, I also stopped being affected by 50/50 minded people. I don’t want anything to do with them, neither their advice since they aren’t living my dream life. 98% of humanity is shit, get used to it. Don’t be afraid to “lose” people if they are holding you behind.

[martyfrancis]