which is gentler of the two, sam or dean? it’s a valid question
depends on the situation.
In every day life? Sam. He wants to understand, wants you to understand, everything, so he’s going to be calm and gentle and take his time with things. On cases, he’s the one to comfort and sympathize with everyone. He’s the warm blanket you throw over a victim’s shoulders until the paramedics take them away.
But Dean just wants to be done. He cares, oh, he cares a lot. But he wants things sorted quickly so everyone is saved with as little fuss as possible.
In the bedroom? Dean. He’s all soft and warm and cuddles and eyelid kisses. Dean wants the pillow talk and the spooning. He wants to take his time, love every single inch of you.
Sam wants you too, just wants you differently. Sam isn’t gentle in the bedroom. At all. Sam leaves you panting and bruised and floating in a grinning daze. It’s not exactly wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am, but it’s not gentle. And that’s OK too. ;)