Last night I was reading a friend's post and I remembered the first generational clash I had with my psychiatrist.
We were talking about my schedule so he asks me "Tell me, why don't you do something to distract yourself in your free time?"
And I was like "My what?" so I said "I study and work doc" thinking that explained it completely, but when she responded by saying "Yeah I know, but I mean, your free time, when you're not studying or working, on the weekends for example, what do you do on the weekends?"
Then it dawned on me… she must be about mid-40s, which means she has been a doctor for about 20 years… she has no idea what the working and studying conditions are like nowadays.
I know because my parents have told me about it and because sometimes adults like to make comparisons about how everything used to be better and how now the world is going to hell, adults remember their past but don't always keep up to date (in the right way) about the present day.
My psychiatrist doesn't know that I study from 7 am to 1 pm, and that the rest of the time I use to work until 8 pm, he doesn't know that most of the jobs that an inexperienced teenager can apply for require you to work 8 or 12 days from Sunday to Sunday, he doesn't know that teachers leave insane amounts of homework because they think that if you leave a student with free time he will do something other than study and that will mean he is wasting time, not to mention the overly long subjects that are assessed in a short period of time, doesn't know that your parents expect you to do all the chores around the house, doesn't know that the economy is so bad that even though you are working and studying full time you still don't earn enough and you feel frustrated because you don't have time to do anything else to earn money while all the adults tell you that you are being lazy, doesn't know that feeling of guilt when you are watching a series or a movie or reading a book and suddenly you think you should be doing something productive. .. she doesn't know that when you're 20 you have to work so you can study and study so you can one day work at something that doesn't make you want to kill yourself on a daily basis.
She understood that when I explained it to her, I admit I was surprised, but what surprised me the most was when she later told me "Your [your generation] need to understand that you can't solve everything, I don't understand how you are unable to accept being wrong or failing, not everything has to be perfect and not everything has a solution… and that it's not your fault".