i will never understand a lot of things when it comes to the r*pc
how admins get away with bubbling when the rules clearly state not to but i guess it doesnt matter bc they run the group. anyway.
how people dont know how to slowburn .. i get wanting angst, passion, tension but if you plot just for it all to reach its peak within 24 hours then whats the point of plotting at all?
which brings me to this: plotting is essential, yes, but so is chemistry in writing. if you plot something with someone but you find your muse gravitating towards another muse despite not plotting it, i think it's essential for both character growths and for yourself to see it through? idk, just food 4 thought. ive had some of my best ships come to life through chem tbh
but also since im already on a rant as it is, if your muse isnt someone that can have layers to them meaning: they dont cheat, they wouldnt ever look at anyone else, they're loyal to a very strict fault, one person is enough then maybe a group setting isnt for that muse bc then you're just stunting yourself in the long run (i hope this makes sense .. i could be wording it wrong)
and then that brings me to if you're primary focus is your females then so be it. don't bring a male just to shove it to the side until you've plotted your female up the wazoo. it's just such a waste of time and disheartening to those who join to write not ship chase. i get that writing females is fun, it's nice to put yourself in the shoes of a made up character and see where they go, but then dont add to your roster if you dont 1) care to develop them 2) only bring them bc you think its the right thing to do
finally, i think if a group is long lasting (i know .. this is one in a million) but if it is, your muse (if applicable) should be allowed to make mistakes. have them cheat, have them get with another muse then back with the original muse they were with. i feel like once muses get in a "relationship" things start to die but you can always add so many instances to create tension, to lead to a blow up after they've had their honeymoon phase etc