#ranty stuff

[lilyginnyblackv2]

Really tried to have someone argue that het ships can't be progressive and subversive because het itself isn't. ‎Like, that is such a moot and semantic based point. There are non-het ships that can be seeped in systemic homophobia or sprinkled with sexism or just exist to be fetish material - I would consider such pairings as non-progressive and non-subversive, something being "not het" doesn't suddenly make it those things and vice-versa.

Het ships can be progressive, subversive, and provide representation that matters just as much as LGBTQIA+ based rep (neurodivergent characters in relationships that are allowed to be adult, sexual beings and aren't written to behave like children, disabled characters in relationships, etc.). In cases such as that, the relationship is subversive and progressive. People who don't see that or people who only view non-het pairings as pushing boundaries and providing much needed rep, are people as an aromantic asexual that I just don't trust.

Largely, because that type of rhetoric sits too comfortably next to rhetoric used by exclusionists in LGBTQIA+ spaces. I feel those are the same kinds of people that would view het aspec relationships as "not LGBTQIA+" or whatever, simply because both people in the relationship are opposite sex, and I'm not here for that.

Anyway, long story short, I said my thoughts on the matter to that person on Twitter, they stated I completely missed the point and were rude af to me, so I just responded back that I said my part and was peacing out. Then I blocked them and the person who's tweet I initially responded to. They (the person who made the initial tweet that het ships are not subversive and progressive, not the one I had the back and forth with) were a kind of a BNF for a queer ship I like, but I had been kind of wanting to block them for a while now anyway.

[lilyginnyblackv2]

I swear, so many K/H fans don't understand what makes a ship canon. 🙄 Possible foreshadowing and possible romantic subtext =/= a canon ship. Especially for an ongoing series. For clarification, I'm not talking about fans who are just joking around. I'm talking about fans who insist that a certain pairing is indeed canon, even though there has been nothing official that indicates this nor any kisses, declarations of love, dating, or etc.

[lilyginnyblackv2]

I find it odd when Furuba fans defend the Kyoko x Katsuya relationship by saying that, because of that relationship, we have Tohru...Like, yes? And? It still doesn't change the fact that the relationship was predatory and involved child grooming? Like? Why couldn't that story have just remained cut and manga only? Especially when there is material of healthier and better relationships that could have been animated instead, like the cut Yuchi, Ayamine, and Kakeru x Komaki stuff. Sorry, just thinking about that nasty ship makes my blood boil.

[lilyginnyblackv2]

Something that I think is really annoying and rude, is when Fruits Basket reactors choose to react to the dub, and all of the sub purists keep being like “I *highly* recommend you change to the sub...” or just generally complain about the reactor choosing to react to the dub instead of the sub in the comments. Just...let them react to the dub. *SO* many reactors have already reacted to the series using the sub already, there are barely any that react using the dub as it is.

[its-sixxers]

man i am just peak grumpy lately. idk if i’m having social burnout or if it’s just my winter hermiting kicking in

some stuff in my personal life is going down (i myself am fine, just stuff that has to do w/ my mum being disabled) and the continued stress of realizing it might be another year+ before i can see my partner is slowly racking up, and i just cannot fulfill my usual role of being chatty fun person

i doubly cannot be emotional support for people right now which is a double edged sword in that i’m like “am i a narcissist for having boundaries re: emotional labor rn” and feel bad about that too

anyways fuck winter where my summer at bring it back >:(((

it being dark by 4 pm is a CRIME

[blood---orchid]

I don't want to open myself up to anyone ever again honestly. I'm sick of being taken advantage of. loving her was honestly my biggest regret

[liminal-storage]

Your old FC meaning the one with the Musical Instrument for a tag? If so, you're not the only one who felt stifled and borderline abused there. Too many rules and hard restrictions. Too many "No you can't" despite it being feasible.

I know I’m not the only one, anon. There’s a whole group of us messed up from our time there. It was great at first, felt like the right fit, but changed into something that just became painful over time. 

Rules and restrictions can be good, if they’re there to protect the interests of the people within the fc. But when the restrictions exist more to dictate how others play the game they PAY for (including literally calling it their job), it loses its charm. 

[little-kitten-aqua]

maybe unpopular opinion but like..... can LGBTAIQ+ scholarships like.... stop including allies in who they consider??? Like, sorry but you’re not part of the community. I don’t care how much you try to “raise awareness” you don’t understand jack-shit about what goes in inside the community? I might be stepping out of my lane but for some reason it feels like a scholarship aimed at black people but they then say “and white people who are decent human beings and not racist.” Just.... it feels so cheap?????? I want to investigate all the winners of those scholarships and idk if it’s cause I’m cynical but I’m expecting at least like 50% of the awards go to allies which is just.... shitty. If you make a scholarship for LGBTAIQ+ people, then you should only accept those people as possible winners. I dunno just uuuugh I’ve seen so many LGBTA+ scholarships that include allies as people they consider for the award and just... just stop.