#relationship stuff

[opiumfarmer]

Hot heavy obsessive possessive romantic passionate lustful love. If not, what’s the point.

[girlonabreak]

love is not about always getting it right; it is about trying, together.

[foldingfittedsheets]

One of my coworkers at the jewelry store was this lady who vehemently loathed smoking. So much so, that when she and her husband first met he lied and said he wasn’t a smoker because he knew he was batting out of his weight class and didn’t want to fumble her.

But instead of actually quitting smoking when they started dating he embarked on a dedicated campaign to hide his habit. He’d wash his hands and brush his teeth religiously, wearing different clothes when he smoked at work and passing off any smells as a result of being around his coworkers. They got married. They had a kid. He smoked in secret the entire time.

He did this. For s i x t e e n y e a r s. He lied and dissembled with his wife, the mother of his child, the love of his life for sixteen years.

He never came clean. In fact, it was his son who caught him and instantly ran to tell his mother the misdeed. When she furiously confronted him he finally admitted to the lie and she almost divorced him on the spot.

When she told me this she had a vaguely embarassed air as if that were an overreaction and I exclaimed, “Why didn’t you?! If someone was so committed to lying and deceiving you that puts your whole relationship into a different context!”

She frowned slightly and admitted, “We went to therapy about it and the therapist agreed with my husband. He said I was blowing things out of proportion.”

I was outraged that a therapist who is only there to mediate would so blatantly take a side and I told her so. She seemed somewhat heartened but went on to say she’s never fully trusted him since. If he could perpetrate such a long term subterfuge over smoking why not an affair? She could never be sure of him, truly, ever again.

They didn’t get divorced but the rift stayed forever.

[randomly-generated-posts-machine]

she [redacted] on my ass till i 69

[bpdbuddys]

I'm the one who stayed.

[kxsagi]

here’s some crush advice my friend: i was unsure for weeks if i had a crush on my co-worker and then the wage gap was brought up and he said something truly insane out of nowhere and my feelings evaporated. so! bringing up a serious topic is a way to get rid of feelings if they say something nuts. good luck

BROOOOO YOU GUYS ARE SAVING ME HERE AND I LOVE YOU

i am going to dump some context here for anyone who cares: i broke up with my boyfriend of almost 3 and a half years in the beginning of june 2025. we were going through a lot of issues at once, like i was constantly asking to be taken out on dates, but he said he had no money, and my friends and family also didn't like him (not a single one of them). i eventually broke things off after he bought the nintendo switch 2 after he said he had no money! that thing was $450 btw 😀

but we still wanted each other in our lives, so we tried being friends, but it was not working for him. i would say the breakup was mutual, but more so i initiated it because when we were just friends, he kept pushing boundaries and kept asking to kiss, cuddle, touch me, even when i firmly said "no" multiple times. it was lowkey beginning to feel like harassment.

that's when i finally decided to start no contact because i was really fed up with this guy. i also should note that he was unfaithful at some point in our relationship and i was just done with him.

I KID YOU NOT, LIKE TWO DAYS AFTER WE START NO CONTACT, HE HITS ON MY BEST FRIEND. she immediately sent me a screenshot of him DMing her on instagram saying "you've been appearing in my dreams a lot" like bro wtf. that's creep and weirdo behavior and she was so uncomfortable 🙁

i blocked him on everything after that and i've been moving on since, but then i found this other guy. i first saw him at the gym i go at 2 years ago and he works at canes, which is where my best friend works so i asked for his name.

he is literally everything that i want in a man, he ticked off every single standard on my dream man list from looks to character. i reached out a couple days ago and we started talking and getting to know each other, and i was getting overwhelmed with feelings that i felt like i was starting to lose myself, but then he texted me last night that he was actually not in the right headspace to talk to anyone rn because he's still healing from a past relationship.

that was all i needed and now i'm fine guys, i would say i've become very unbothered and detached recently, especially this year. his message was really mature and respectful, and shows his self-awareness because many people can't even acknowledge that they need to heal from things they don't talk about.

i have all of you and am also very busy in my personal life and have my own support system of family, friends, and community. i'm absolutely fine, have not shed a single tear lol, and like... i know he'll come back because they always do.

[hayatheauthor]

He took what he needed. I should have known it wasn't my heart