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7,8,9 (says lesbian but for however you id!)

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7. Do you consider yourself butch/femme? What does butch/femme culture mean to you?

I mean, I feel a little weird about the butch/femme thing for me personally just because of the number of lesbians who don’t want bi/pan women using it. BUT that being said, I’m a very feminine person, and I’ve very consciously tried to make my feminity not have anything to do with men or men’s expectations, so I guess that’s my answer.

8. Most embarrassing thing you’ve done in front of a cute girl?

Gah. My whole life is doing embarrassing things in front of cute people. Literally two hours ago, I passed these two very cute girls (probably sisters) on the sidewalk. They both smiled at me, so naturally I freaked out and bumped right into them.

9. Did you identify as something different before realising that you were a lesbian? What made you realise?

I think I knew I liked girls from about sixth grade on, but I was really good at denying it because I was Madly in Love with a dumb boy at the time. By eighth/ninth grade, I got into this weird place where I started telling myself that I couldn’t be into girls because then I’d be a lesbian and I liked boys (yes, I knew bi people existed, but for some reason I never thought that I could be? Idk). I started identifying as pansexual when I was sixteen, and that’s still the label I like best, though I’m also totally cool with bi and queer because I’ve learned to think about it in a less binary way.

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I saw your tags and would love to hear all about your take on cinderella as queer narrative

oooohhhhh yesss!!! okay first of all you need to see this post that came up on my dash recently and has got me all excited and that’s talking about this book where Cinderella is a trans woman and how her new family are transphobic assholes.

but then also?? just in general, I was weirdly obsessed with that movie as a child and I watched it over and over again, and it was somehow my favorite, and for a long time continued to be my favorite even at a point where I was like “princess movies are shitty!! why do they all need to be saved that sucks!!” and didn’t like any other princess movies. I think what draws me in is that Cinderella is always “the other” in her own story - and that’s of course not necessarily a metaphor for queerness or transness specificaly, it can be about anything really, any form of systemic oppression and any group of people that’s made to be ‘the other’ from a mainstream perspective.

But there’s this overlap of themes that overlap with a lot of queer/trans narratives and realities: being hidden away and abused by family. being pushed into poverty, basically. having a big heart, dreaming big, but at the same time being hopeless and feeling trapped in your situation, especially in your family.

And last but not least: the transformation. What a beautiful dream to be turned into the real, beautiful version of yourself for one magical night! Sure, it’s not her body that gets transformed in the fairytale or the Disney movie, just her clothes (and her animal friends and a huge pumpkin and stuff), but what if it was? What if the fairy godmother said #transitiongoals and made Cinderella’s outside match the inside for one night?

And then, the ball. The prince. What I think is important is that, even though it comes down to romantic love and hetero marriage, Cinderella is not really a love story - at least to me it isn’t. It is about someone who breaks free from an abusive home and finds a safe place, safe people, and self-fulfillment. At the ball, for the first time in a long time, Cinderella doesn’t feel like “the other”, she feels like she belongs. Of course she knows it’s all just an illusion, and if the others saw her ‘real self’, they probably wouldn’t be so kind. That’s why she runs at the end of the night, because even though the prince treats her with kindness and she craves that, she can’t accept it because she expects to be hurt if she lets the prince too close and lets him see the truth.

But then, the magical thing happens: the prince doesn’t give up on her, and searches all over for her, and even though everyone tries to get in his way and keep him away from her, he decides, no, she’s worth all the trouble. And he sees her for who she really is even without the magical transformation, and accepts her this way, doesn’t think any less or any different of her either way.

And no matter what brand of trans or nonbinary or queer you decide to read that, it always improves the story by 100%. Cinderella being a trans woman like in the post above, and the stepsisters and stepmother telling the prince there are no other women in the house, and he’s like “what about her though”, pointing at non-passing Cinderella in her dirty apron and slacks? Incredible. Cinderella being a trans man, treated like a servant girl in his family, then sneaking out, getting magical facial hair, a flat chest and a neat uniform, meeting a secretly gay prince and falling in love? Radical. Trans man Cinderella falling in love with the beautiful princess who searches the whole kingdom for that boy she fell in love with at the ball, ignoring how shocked the whole kingdom is when she brings home trans man C? NICE. Nonbinary Cinderella who never knew where they fit in and if there could ever be a place for them, meeting the gnc prince*ss of their dreams, and both of them, misunderstood and mistreated by their families, run away together? Sign me tf up. Butch Cinderella whose stepsisters try to humiliate her by forcing her into a dress for the ball, who would rather stay at home than force herself into femininity for a public event - and then the fairy godmother brings her a dapper suit which brings her instant joy and a feeling of rightness she never felt before, and it gives her all the confidence she needs to go to the ball and dance with the beautiful princess all night? hhhhhhhhh

Okay I think I’m done, I’m just getting less and less comprehensible. Anyway, Cinderella being “othered” by her narrative, getting a transformation, and in the end finding support and acceptance, is a perfect character to project everyone’s gender feels on

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reasonandnonsense replied to your post: have recently come to the uncomfortable...

Wait I went to library school do i say it differently I don’t know I am very rarely exposed to the word???

do you say PRAH-ve-nence or PRO-ve-nahnce

#reasonandnonsense #this is the worst thing I have ever typed #I say the latter and hate myself

Happy birthday!!!

THANK YOU!

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reasonandnonsense replied to your post: can you believe that killing eve exists like every...

“every time I think about killing eve I just get so giddy and delighted and thrilled” also reads with a different meaning that also…. kind of works in character

*taps side of nose*

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8, 37, 49, 63 :)

8. Make Me Feel—Janelle Monáe

37. Pynk—Janelle Monáe (wow wild coincidence)

49. Love Again—Pentatonix

63. My Silver Lining—First Aid Kit

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