I am not a relationship expert , but most of my relationships have lasted years .
It is important to me to speak life into my partner . For example my German was nervous and stressed about something .
I told him that HE was the greatest and already possessed what it took to accomplished that task …and I meant it . I still remember him turning back around and giving me a quick hug before he left for work
That is now an indelible memory in my mind 🥲
Tbc ; never support anything that may harm , but always speak as positively as possible to your partner
The next thing that helps me , is that I accept leadership. Before you accept leadership however , I feel you must select a good partner you can trust .
For example, one of my friends has an extremely high powered job , she makes an obscene amount of money .
She is a business woman in one of the tall buildings
Her boyfriend was a bartender and did not . She spent a lot of time telling him what to do
That will not work dear friends
All relationships have (or should ) have traditional roles or elements to them
She had to find a man “above her “ that she could look up to , and she did . Eventually marrying him
I personally feel relationships are more successful when a man earns more than his woman .
My German is my leader , however before giving him that honor , he indicated via his actions that he was capable of making sound judgments I could trust
If it is something that is important to me however , than I will share my opinions
With him , like taking care of my godchildren, while my best friend is recovering, but mostly I am satisfied with what he decides
In return he takes care of most things I suggest are a problem . I dislike to many things to think about
Thirdly; realistic expectations are necessary. For example; my German is obviously, well German
I thought about that long and hard before entering a relationship with him considering I grew up not even knowing where Germany was on the map , or desiring to ever leave the south . Let alone the county
And I jumped from that to my boyfriend/eventually my fiancé being a foreigner
It was something we spoke about before becoming engaged , and I accepted that we may move to Germany in the future after I complete my program
My mother in law is elderly , and she wants us near her . She mentions to me to bring her son back to her all the time
In fact we are visiting Germany this summer.
So I would say supporting your partner , accepting his leadership , and communication /having realistic relationships expectations has helped my relationships to last and thrive
Hopefully this adequately answers your dm and will help you in some way 😊
