#relationship mess

[needtoscreamandshout]

Yep, we’ve broken up

Long story short, he didn’t love me and he felt that 7 months in he should and he felt guilty and thought it was best to end it. It’s terribly painful. 

[needtoscreamandshout]

Break up... sort of?

My boyfriend called me today, crying, and said he couldn’t handle the long distance aspect of our relationship, that when we’re together everything is wonderful but it’s just too hard in between, and skyping just isn’t the same as actually being together. 

I was in complete shock, this is the first he’s ever mentioned, and he’s gone nuclear about it. We’ve never even had a problem in our relationship before or any arguments or anything like that. I’ve asked that we skype on Wednesday to unpack the problem, because what we have seems at least worth that before totally throwing it away. He said he’s more than happy to explain his feelings more, so we’re calling. 

I have a game plan of talking about the ways in which we can make the long distance work. I pray that he can come into the conversation with an open mind and the strength to work at this, rather than just attack it with a sledgehammer. Because this is ridiculous. 

I pray that love will win out and that we can fix this. But i’m so scared that it won’t. 

[needtoscreamandshout]

Romantic development?

I met a guy and we went on a date and I thought he might not like me but we spoke afterwards and we both admitted that we like each other and i’m freaking out in a way because I don’t know what’s gonna happen and I don’t know how to kiss whereas he’s had numerous girlfriend’s and i’m just like always in panic mode whereas he’s cool and chilled and i’m meeting him again next weekend and crap I don’t know how to do anything

[wanderbythegrave]

with independence first, i suppose, would come a winter break spent under warm blankets, movie weekends set aside to keep priorities, spring vacations to greater destinations, autumn hikes in silence save the leaves in the wind, summer marathons stockpiled and games with friends, and a future unwinding, arms stretched, freedom, but at one point i wanted them all with you, thought you wanted them with me. but a partner demands priority, demands thought and time, something i guess we once had, but might have lost, and the fact is i feel like we have, and that's what matters. and i know i deserve something more fulfilling than a boy i've grown distant from, a boy so close to his mother's chest still, a man who neither shares or understands my struggles. a man who doesn't know me anymore, and who i don't know anymore, but with independence first, i suppose, would come an answer for my heart's ache and longing, and my many, many questions and doubts.

[wanderbythegrave]

loving someone you cannot have, who cannot love you. i am stepping into new surroundings, shedding skin of fear and doubt, cold and unready. walk with me, just walk with me, warm my heart and yours. hold my hand, and let me find where i cannot go. the smaller things are happening right now, and summer has ended so quickly, but my feet have not yet found a path. all the ground around me is new, fearfully so. it makes me feel lost. i'm afraid i will feel lost all the more, with your hand slipping away, and only our fingers touch now. i am losing you, losing everyone. all connections lost, no new ties. nothing to hold me to earth. nothing to hold me here, and all the dreams to leave. thoughts left silent, fears quiet, and alone.

[peakesqueak]

so what is it about me that makes people bail after a few weeks in a relationship with me

[peakesqueak]

because i literally wait months for someone, who by that time im practically head over heels for, only for the relationship to last a month or two and end with me getting my heart broken

maybe its who im dating? because it seems like i always date people who can keep relationships up for more than two months, but then date me and its going to shit within two weeks.

maybe its me

maybe im just a defect

[zdmag]

Things You Say and Things You Don't

[quote_center]Assumptions are the termites of relationships. ― Henry Winkler[/quote_center]

This is for all those who have either, in the past, messed up their relationships or are about to do the same. Relationships are fragile material. One has to…

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