#AskStaciiJae I use to be the type of single female that blamed everything about my relationships on EVERYTHING else but what it REALLY was. I was initially silently ashamed of the continued bad choices I made as it pertained to love in my life. I had gotten to the point I just said "f*%k men! I got so bad that I started to tell myself that I didn't want love in my life- no romantic love, that is. I was like relationships are too hard. And men are too disappointing. I would judge someone for just not being able to walk in my life, understand my needs and provide them. Which honestly I realized "hell I didn't really understand my needs my damn self- maybe the surface stuff." I wanted him to show up and give me adventure, but didn't know adventure on my own. All I did was work. I didn't spend any real time doing anything with myself outside movies and dinner. I didn't spend time cultivating a loving, adventurous, romantic relationship with myself. I didn't take responsibility to BECOME who I needed to be to attract what I wanted to attract. Any real sisters out there who can identify with this mindset? Then.... something life shattering happened in my life and I had to look at self. And shit, I realized it was ALL ME! My romantic relationships were a reflection of everything I WAS and CREATED. That was years ago! I am NONE of any of THAT ANYMORE. Being on this other side, being a real student of creating healthy romantic relationships... my life has changed and so has my romantic relationships. It's definitely been a journey. I'm so proud of who I am now as a woman. Now, I spread what is the truth.... We all can have the love we deserve and desire we might just have to do some SELF work to attract the right love that we want. TODAY.... I SALUTE ALL THE OTHER SINGLE LADIES WHO ARE DOING THE SELF WORK. #staciijae #dating #love #loveadvice #relationship #relationshipquestion
