Sometimes I see discourse and I just get worried about all the queer kids who are in the very early stages of realizing it. Like, I understand why queer adults are frustrated by “I’d go gay for her!” but the thing is, that’s exactly the kind of thought process I’d have as a tiny baby bi who didn’t realize she was bi. I had a crush on a straight girl all four years of high school but for the first two I thought it was just a “girl crush” because I though I was straight too. And I worry, what if I had seen those posts about those things being bad when I was in that subconscious questioning my sexuality phase? I can’t imagine it doing anything other than setting me back and making me feel bad about myself. A lot of those kids aren’t far enough in the questioning process to be able to hear “have you considered that you’re not straight?” without freaking out a little bit.
I’m not saying we shouldn’t talk about the reasons it’s not good for straight people to say “I’d go gay for that hot famous person” or talk about their no homos and girl crushes, I just don’t want people to forget that those behaviors can also be part of the process of realizing you’re not straight and that there are young, confused kids out there who call themselves straight but aren’t. I want people to think about those kids.
