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rooksandravens replied to your post “*google search* How to get your cousin to stop talking about her...”

????????????????? Wow. I'm sorry. That sounds awkward as hell. Whyyyyy????

My cousin is a new mom so her entire fb story is nothing but posts about her breasts and breastfeeding and feeding her child and I mean thats whatever its your fb right but then she came onto MY status about apartment living and never knowing if the milk is sour to tell me that she tests her own breastmilk to make sure it isn’t sour and im like  CAN WE NOT TALK ABOUT YOUR TITS FOR 5 MINUTES, RHONDA

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Also It Really Says Something About How Right I Am That You Can't Even Address My Points You Just Go "Oooooh XD Kanaya Called Me A Godless Heathen" Like The Freak Of Nature You Are

Sorry fam, I just don’t respond to people who won’t take feedback because that’s stupid and ugly. 

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yo dumbass, being marginalized means that ppl do illegal things to u. deny medical care, beat, rape, kill. talking down to a trans woman denying the horrible violence we face bc its ostensibly illegal just shows everyone the fucking gilded bubble u been livin in. some ppl have real problems tho so have a heart, step outta ur ego, and think about how ur choosing to hurt ppl who been suffering. like, why do that? it doesnt even help ur point just makes u look like a privileged Ass

I’m not denying that people have faced discriminatory violence in the past. I’m saying if you have, get a fucking lawyer and don’t use it as a badge to tell other people they don’t belong in your super special exclusive club for marginalized people for assuming they haven’t experienced the same.

“have a heart, step outta ur ego, and think about how ur choosing to hurt ppl who been suffering. like, why do that? it doesnt even help ur point just makes u look like a privileged Ass” is just as valid of a suggestion for the people trolling the asexual positivity tags with bullshit about how they don’t experience enough Injustice TM to warrant inclusion in the spaces they’ve been welcomed into the acronym for.

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renoir

renoir: is you heart occupied right now? describe him/her/them. 

Yes <3 By the very very lovely @inkandmarrow

And I’m not usually this sappy. I’m a shitposting memer IRL as much as I am on this ridiculous website, but. She’s beautiful from her very core out far past where her body ends. She’s intelligent in a way most people lack-- emotion. She feels things so strongly for herself and for others and for the world around her. She just radiates that feeling that you get on a slightly cool fall day, when the rain is falling gently on the windows, and you’re in your favorite blanket or sweater with a mug of hot beverage and a wistful satisfaction with the simple things in life. 

She loves animals so very much, constantly chirping at our rats or our teeny 7lb dog, Luna. We’re always talking about how eventually we’ll end up with a small zoo of dogs and cats and rats and birds and maybe a pig, fox and raccoon. 

She’s quiet sometimes in that aloof almost brooding sense, completely drawn in on a thought or a memory, refining it and turning it over and examining all sides until she brings it back to the surface. Other times, she speaks so passionately and vibrantly that you get lost on the words and just caught up in riding the whirlwind with her. 

She has wonderful green eyes and porcelain skin and a dainty mouth that looks like the face of a doll. Her hair’s been every hue from pink to sea foam green to platinum blonde to dark brown. She’s proud of her gauged ears, wearing the tunnels as a symbol of dedication and persistence. She always does her makeup before even going out to the store. 

And I can pretty much guarantee you that the second she reads this, she’ll stare for a few seconds, stiffen up in the shoulders, look at the floor and mumble “that’s fuckin gay” and walk away. 

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spectreoflesbianism

spectreoflesbianism  And while...

yes that has to do with gender roles but it isnt gender non-conforming like how being lgbt is, being lgbt actively subverts gender roles as a whole because by default by being lgbt you are doing something only considered proper of the “other” gender. while it may be looked down on, asexuality is not an active threat to that system like being lgbt is and therefore garners a much less violent response on average. not performing superfluous aspects of gender roles generally is much more tolerated than actively subverting them is (ex. cis white women can generally get away with not wearing makeup, but to actively dress “butch” is considered “repulsive”)

So Cishet identifying people who dress and present as the opposite gender in our gendered society should also belong in the LGBT? Like boys who wear dresses despite being boys? How about nonbinary people? Do Agender people not belong in LGBT either? 

The definition of an “integral” vs a “superfluous” aspect of a gender role is an opinion, and a personal one, and changes constantly as society redefines gender roles. Something that feels “superfluous” to you as a gender role might be “integral” to someone else, and the opposite as well. Fucking someone of the same sex is no more an “integral” part of gender roles than being the household provider was integral to being a man 200 years ago. 

This is getting circular and philosophical, and I’m getting tired. Even if you somehow manage to convince me that cis heteroromantic asexuals and cis aromantic asexuals, or even NB aromantic asexuals don’t belong in the MOGAI/LGBT communities, you’ve got a whole world of other people out there to convince, so I won’t continue to waste your time when it could be better spent on someone who might actually budge on the subject. If that’s really what you want to preach, godspeed. You’ve got so many more people to kick out of your exclusive clubhouse and all you’re really doing is turning people away from services and a supportive community that could help them to feel less othered on the basis of ideological purity, and in my personal opinion, that’s pretty damn shitty. 

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spectreoflesbianism

  Hey so since

1. i literally didnt block you but alright lmao

2, i’m ace myself so don’t even try to say i’m aphobic or w/e

3. i know her in real life and we’re part of the same trans group together i can Confirm she said that

4. i’m not saying to /never/ contact authorities or w/e but honestly if you think thats such a feasible solution to succeed that really demonstrates your lack of understanding about institutionalized oppression like . its not an Individual thing that some ppl just Happen to be racist/misogynistic/homophobic/transphobic/ableist etc. its literally built into the structure of our society government included??? and not everyone (especially since marginalized people are more likely to be poorer) has the monetary resources for that and it often can make things worse. not about lgbt issues but a good example is how many times when black people call the police to stop harm to themselves, the police automatically attack them instead

also ty for donating

1: Well, your post gave me a big fat “cannot reblog this post” screen, so my b on the assumption, glad you’re still with us. I’ll go edit that post. 

2: Just like internalized racism/sexism/misogyny/homophobia/transphobia there is such a thing as internalized aphobia, and saying “I have never experienced material oppression for being Asexual, therefore Asexuals do not ever experience material oppression for being Asexual” is an aphobic statement, just as “I have never experienced material oppression for being gay/female/trans, therefore no gay/female/trans person has ever been oppressed for being gay/female/trans” is a homophobic/misogynistic/transphobic statement. You don’t get a free pass there.

3: Cool, ty for the primary source. That sucks and makes her struggle all the more important, and she should seek alternative legal representation.

4: Yes, I understand that our society has a problem with  racism/misogyny/homophobia/transphobia/ableism, and we should be fighting it. But we aren’t fighting it if we’re too busy having an oppression pissing contest because we’re trying to divide up our community. Using one persons oppression as a reason to silence another persons talk about their own struggles is what we call the Oppression Olympics or The Saddest Person In the World argument. It’s what this argument has been about from the very beginning. 

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spectreoflesbianism

  And while we’re at it, if the unifying categorical...

yeah it wasnt started on marxist theory but marxist theory is a good way of analyzing it because materialism really is the only way to accurately describe overarching systems of oppression. its just describing reality in terms that make more sense. and yeah youre right on the last part! but the Reason homophobia/transphobia/transmisogyny exist is through the larger system of misogyny. there are plenty of “norms” that can be subverted that don’t equate to oppression so defining oppression based on subverting norms is a pretty useless lens to attempt to look at things through. i’m sure we both can agree say, goths or gingers aren’t oppressed. 

did you literally read anything i read. lgbt people face a form of oppression specifically having to do with going against gender roles put in place by misogyny

Gender roles like being expected to perform theoretically viable babymaking activities instinctually? Like being instinctually interested in having sex with a member of the opposite sex?

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spectreoflesbianism

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that 1st part isnt a societal benefit & 2nd is only faced by women/ppl perceived as women/gnc? and wrt the “unifying” thing thats where ur confusing individual experience with material oppression again. yes every lgbt persons individual experiences are different but the ways in which they are oppressed r similar. of course that will effect say a trans woman versus a trans man differently etc etc but the fact is the reasoning behind why they are oppressed stays the same.

The first is a societal benefit because it shapes the way we view ourselves as a society and demanding that the alternative be recognized is seen as earthshattering. The second does not only impact perceived women/gnc it also impacts perceived men. Asexual men and perceived men being told that they are sexual deviant fiends who can’t help themselves when they see a naked woman is an impact on perceived men.

And for fucks sake the LGBT community was not founded on marxist theory so please, find a different dead horse to beat. 

The reason a trans person is oppressed is because of their gender identity not matching the gender they were assigned at birth is not conflating with the norm. 

The reason a homosexual/bisexual/pansexual/asexual person is oppressed is because their sexuality differing from heterosexuality is not conflating with the norm.