You know what, I'm going to start a post listing LGBTQIA+ microlabels that I feel may describe me, but will edit+update as life and growth and change happen.
Asexual+aromantic spectrum - For me, experiencing very little sexual+romantic attraction ever to anyone or anything.
Demisexual + demiromantic - I can literally only ever feel sexual attraction after a close emotional bond has been formed. (Or at least I feel an emotional connection, even with fictional characters.) There's a teensy tiny bit less strict requirement for my romantic attraction, but it's largely the same. I certainly don't want to ACT on it and kiss someone romantically unless I already have an emotional connection.
-> I am actually sex/romance repulsed by default if I don't already know, trust, and actively desire those activities with someone. There might be a term for this specific aspect, but I don't know what it is. If someone I don't know/trust/love in other ways asks to go out with me or go home with them, I get disgusted and firmly turn it down.
( ^ This even affects me in a fandom way. If I don't feel trust/connection between the characters, I'll blacklist/filter out the ship. I don't read fanfiction that has a ship I don't feel a spark between, though I'll make exceptions from friends, but I won't enjoy the shippy content.)
Apressexual: Not feeling sexual attraction until another form of attraction happened first. I'm never going to be sexually attracted to someone I'm not already also platonically, emotionally, or romantically attracted to.
Graysexual + grayromantic - The frequency of which I experience sexual / romantic attraction is much lower than is statistically normal.
-> I've never developed a crush on anyone or anything from looks alone. I'm 33 and I've only ever been in three romantic relationships, one of which I honestly don't think counts because it lasted like a month or less and I didn't feel a damn thing for him. The other one was rather short-lived, lasting about 3 months, but I also didn't feel anything romantic for him, even if he did make me feel happy. I felt deeply for the third, but that was the only one singular instance I've ever actually felt romantic and sexual attraction in.
-> I have literally only actually desired to participate in sexual activities with One (1) singular real-life person.
-> I feel no need, and honestly not really a desire, to actively seek another sexual/romantic partner. If it happens, I wouldn't be against it, but I'm not pining for it, nor the one making the first move. Which brings me to:
Reciprosexual / reciproromantic - I largely feel romantic/sexual attraction only AFTER the other party shows interest. Honestly, before someone else shows interest, it doesn't occur to me to be attracted to them those ways.
-> Note that this contrasts SHARPLY against platonic attraction for me! I quite often meet people that I enjoy having conversations with and think, "I want to be your friend! :)"
Polyamory positive: I've never been in a poly relationship, but I'm very open to it! The longest/deepest relationship I was in was open and I have no regrets, but as far as I know, neither of us actually did anything with that.
After all of the other conditions/qualifications have been met, I'm actually panromantic and pansexual. I genuinely don't care about your gender or sexuality, as long as you're okay with the wild west that is mine.
I'm also firmly agender, though certain Nexus-related shifts flavor it a touch, but not enough that it changes my core identification as Still Being Agender. I get shadows of gender, but it doesn't affect my identity, does that make sense? I wrote a whole essay on it but it involves a lot of otherkin talk so I'll only share it with people who ask first.
(I also identify as gender non-conforming, trans, and nonbinary, but I don't think those count as microlabels. They're umbrella terms, so they're more like macrolabels? lD;;; )
Questioning labels:
Aegosexual / aegoromantic especially? Liking the idea of sexual/romantic fantasies, but not wanting to actually physically participate in them. Aegoromantic especially often has a connotation of enjoying fictional stories about it without desiring one for yourself, which is mostly true for me. This is still a spectrum and there have been exceptions for me, but they're exceptions to the rule. I do not actively desire them.
Berrisexual? Pan, but with the footnote that you're rarely attracted to men/masc folks. I can think of One (1) fictional character I've had sexual attraction to, and One (1) real masc person (who I was already dating when he came out as masc). This seems more like a tiktok trend than anything though so I'm not sure if I want to claim it.
Fictosexual? I have experienced sexual attraction to a few fictional characters. I feel both romantic and sexual attraction more to fictional characters than real people, statistically speaking, by a factor of about 5. I won't list them here for my own privacy, but the two biggest ones (personal reference: from bws b and the one I'm mad about) are because they triggered the demi; that is, I feel an intense emotional connection to them. The third one I've been fantasizing about a lot lately (bws w-adjacent) isn't necessarily an attraction The Person so much as having a fantasy so passionate and triumphant it makes me h*rny. (Body, what the fuck.)
There might be more, but like I said, I'll add / update them as they happen.