#roomate issues

[mrs-spindelle]

Its summer. July was our hottest month this year with temperatures of 110+ degrees F. I live with a roommate who was also a co-worker of mine. We both needed to move out. I wanted to get out of an abusive household and she was tired of being in a cramped house with 8 people inside. So, we both agreed to find an apartment and live together in peace.

Skip ahead to summer.

Now we don’t live in the best apartments. Ours is old, and she wanted to live on the upper floor (2 stories high), so we get a balcony with the roof. She doesn’t live here. She is part of the lease, her furniture is here, some of her food is here, but she doesn’t *live* here. She’s miraculously back at the same house with 8 people because her boyfriend lives there. I understand, don’t go away from your love. I respect that.

However...

When I get her complaining in my ear about 170$ electric bill, and it increases as the temperature increases outside, it pisses me off. I work nights, which means I am in this apartment during the hottest and most brutal time of the day. The sun beats down on the roof, making this apartment considerably hotter than the ones beneath us. So the AC doesn’t shut off, despite being at 73 degrees. I turn it off when I leave, so its off for a good 8-9 hours each night I work. Then I turn it back on when I get home because even the evening air outside makes it well over 85 degrees inside. Thats as hot as the kitchen where I work with open flames. Think I want to sleep in that?

Roomie...we agreed to live here and split the bills regardless of what happens. You have a full time manager position, I work as a waitress. You have all your food made for you at your boyfriend’s house, and the support of 8+ people and make a solid 18$ an hour. I am alone, I sleep here, I put food in OUR fridge, I clean OUR apartment, I arrange all repairs, I take care of the integrity of the apartment to make sure we get our deposit back, I TURN OFF THE LIGHTS YOU LEAVE ON WHEN YOU VISIT FOR 10 MINUTES. I even mop up your fucking tea (that I made) that you spill in front of the fridge.

If I want to sleep with the AC turned on and enjoy my sleep during the day before I work a longass night to grind for tips while you sleep soundly, THEN I’M KEEPING IT ON!

What the hell do you think I do here? Turn on all lights and leave the patio open and wave the cool air goodbye with a tissue? Think I’m throwing rave parties with 1000 strobe lights?! I stay in my fucking room, my dark gothic room with 1 light that I hardly use because I prefer the grim candlelight. Maybe if you slept here for a single night and LIVED here like you wanted, you would understand a thing or two. But you don’t.

But why the hell do you care? You make 2k a month, and I struggle just to make 500$ and I still manage to keep everything together and I go without while successfully paying half our bills on time. Maybe if you stopped buying useless cheap clothes at Victoria’s Secret every paycheck because the shit they make falls apart after the first wash, or eating out every fucking day, you wouldn’t mind helping your roommate out and pay half for a damn bill that would’t make a dent in your bank (70$-85$) - whereas I have to choose between getting gas or getting groceries for a week.

This is why I want solitude, to be away from everyone and be truly alone. I only need my girlfriend. No matter what I do, I can’t seem to get away from garbage people in my life.

[winry-lucy-beth]

Roomate: Is it wrong to add 5 more things to your christmas list and send it to your mom a 3rd time

Me: Frankly I find it ridiculous to have a christmas list at all. Let alone one with more than 5 things on it.

Roomate: Well its only about 1000 dollars worth of stuff.

Me: *spits out tea*

Roomate: What?

I am 10 levels of done with how ridiculous my roomate is. Like she comes from a rich family and is just so completely oblivious to how privledged she is. Yesterday I found out she had never eaten ramen and then didnt understand why I thought that was weird. When I explained that only well off people can afford to not eat ramen she said that the reason she hadnt eaten ramen as a kid wasnt because she was rich but because her mom was a health freak. I then had to explain to her that eating healthy is extremly expensive so you have to have money to do it and that is why poor people eat ramen alot is because its 25 cents a pack. But like how does she not get this? Its not rocket science!

Damn rich people.

[this-is-lindsey]

my roommate pisses me off a lot and shes a really avid tea drinker, but doesn’t wait for the kettle to hiss when she heats up her water so everytime she walks away i put a few ice cubes in the kettle so everyday she has to drink lukewarm tea

[throughthemirror-andbackagain]

Ah see, but you're the only one who can't seem to understand what I say. Everyone else understands me perfectly fine, but ypu insist on taking everything I say out of context and put words in my mouth.

[misscocokat-archive]

They have only been dating for like 4 months and are talking about marriage.

Is that normal or..???

[rage-of-ruttuk]

I am not okay.

I am anxious, angry, and confused and very worried.

Why do I always feel so alone and burdened with something like this?? No one seems to share my sense of dread whenever I think of their futures if this were to happen, and it's not a risk that should ever be taken. Not with the emotional and mental state she has.

I fucking hate being in the middle, especially by myself.

I need help before my chest collapses.

[morningstorywhatstheglory]

It's funny how friendships change like, I used to be so scared of getting into arguments or making the other person mad. Those kind of things used to upset me but not anymore I don't care at all, I guess it's because the friendship dissolving doesn't scare me anymore. I don't need her the way she needs me. Do I want her to be in my life? Yes. But it's like everyday is a struggle about something and it's exhausting. She's my roommate as well so factor that in. It feels like how I imagine a bad marriage is, constant tension and the person is always there.

[aelurus-lupus]

Roommate Rant

Just found out my old roommate is basically slandering me. I probably think it's funnier than I probably should. Apparently from what she told my friend, I watch T.V. until 4 o'clock in the morning, am anti-social, and ignored any of her attempts to be friends. Reason why I think it's funny is because these are things she did. To me.

 I remember her multiple times watching loud movies with her friends talking past 3 o'clock and I had to put my foot down and tell her to stop because I had morning classes. She responded by acting passive aggressive to me. I don't even know how she could say that since I don't have a T.V. She's the only one with a T.V. The latest I ever stayed up was during Exam week and that was only till two and I only had one light on plus I was completely quiet. She was always in the room after her classes so I only stayed in there to sleep. If I wasn't at classes, I was in my friend's rooms or studying in the library. I once stayed in the room one day to see what she did and she only moved from her bed, to her chair, to her bed again while only texting or looking mad. I tried multiple times throughout the semester to talk to her and it was always met with anger and passive aggressive responses. Like, "Yeah" and "Sure" when I asked about things like the weather or how her classes were going. She never tried once to initiate the conversation. In fact, I was ignored when I was in the room.

What I found to be funny is that she reserved that room as her own room. I'm glad. Now no one else has to go what I went through. Anyways, I could go on and on about this roommate and there's a heck ton lot of other things she did towards me emotionally but I'm going to move on. I already have. I moved into a nicer dorm with a really nice roommate.

My advice for anyone with a roommate is that if you feel emotionally or physically drained, feel like the room you paid for isn't yours too, or that your Roommate won't listen to reason then you should move. Feeling that the next option could be worse is not what you should be thinking of. You should be thinking of you and if you think you should move then do it.